Cause there’s no way I’m gonna endure 5 days of greasy food and being stuck sitting on a stage with my depressed/crying wife trying to look all serious with bright lights and a camera stuck in my face while wierdos I never seen before come by in large groups to pose behind us and fat aunties nit pick every single thing about me as they wolf down as much food as they can!!! lol
^ 5 days? :D
celebrations start from weeeeeeeeeks ( 2 or 3 weeks) before the wedding day :p
Waqas, congrats! BTW, When is the big day?
I love weddings. They are so much fun in every respect. You get to go in all your "decked out" finery (I wore an orange/red combo Maria B. outfit) to a nice venue where everyone is extremely stylishly dressed in the latest fashion, the auntis and uncles are so elegant and good-spirited, young men and women are at their best (some guys in suits simply look awesome) and you have a chance to mingle...bigtime! I love these events. The last one I attended was in September at the Princeton Hilton...gorgeous setting...snacks were served on the 10th floor patio with waiters bringing around all sorts of desi snacks...dinner was in the main reception hall set for the 300+ guests...and there was a bit of dancing afterwards where everyone was invited onto the dance floor. I danced a bit with my dad, couldn't pull mom up to chill a bit as well (she was too busy talking it up with one of her friends to care). All in all, mash'allah a very nicely done affair. The bride and groom made a very nice couple as well!
Speaking of weddings...can't wait to have my own one day...insh'allah.
:)
weddings are a awkward concept. as you describe you sit there in a tight fitting suit, wondering 'what on earth am i doing here'. Your family is almost hysteric in order to ensure everything goes alright. And all the guests are there only to have free food. Nothing special.....waste of time actually
Mine would be just one day hopefully. Nikkah in morning, walima in evening. The end. grin
How can people just sit there and stare? I would be too busy hanging with my friends and making commets to my wife about later on than sit around looking stupid.
**Waqas, the simpler the wedding is
the happier couples have known to be. The reason
probably being the fact that Islam emphasizes simplicity
and elegance w/o the ravishingly mind^blowing show off
of financial status. Also it puts less burden financially
on the newly weds. The money can be later used
towards settling down and it can really come handy.
A simple Nikkah followed by a group of close relatives,
friends and associates in a nice place with a nice setting
and simple elegant food should be the way.
Ours was a very elegant one with about close
relatives and immediate friends of about a 100
people at a hotel at the reception following
the nikkah. Walima had a bit more people
from both sides. Both the reception and valima
were very personal in that
every guest was tended to by both sides and
every family/couple got to take a picture with
the bride and groom whether they were family or
relatives. Music was played from Pakistan, India,
Uzbekistan and Persia. By keeping the number of
guests low, both
families were able to concentrate more on the
set, the decorations, the food, the outfits, the music
and the whole arrangement. All
in all it was a very personal wedding that everyone
who attended would remember for a long time. :=)**
5 hours should be good .... 1 hour at home..1 hour at mosque...3 hours at ceremony and that should be good enough. Personaly i dont think i can go ahead with the paki marriage tradition which is held for like 4-5 days.
When i got married in Pk it was about 4 days.
I really enjoy my marriage there but was also tired.
En Congrats Waqas when you will get married?
Nilu
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Nikkah in morning, walima in evening
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I guess you won't be available that afternoon. :D
funguy, are you trying to explain the sharaee position on valima here? =)
I know :)
just so kids here know, from what i have heard, teh valima can not be held until the marriage is consummated. thus funguy's point about a busy afternoon.
Thats sucks. DO you ahve to freakin annoounce it? Wasn’t all this stuff supposed to be kept private???
What sucks?.
I don't think it is REQUIRED for a marriage to be consummated to have a valima. I am not sure but it would be inappropriate to have such a pre-requisiste.
Don't worry FF. You can tease him for a couple of weeks.
Mind your own business 
What sucks that there would be pressure on the couple to get it over and done with just cost the friggin valeema is the enxt day. SHould be able to take their time.
Yeah I have heard some place in Pakistan, the Baawarchi won't light up the fire to cook Valeemay ka khaana until he gets a confirmation. Some bawarchees are very strict and want proof.
sounds alot like the guy my cuz married, only did i mention he started dancing? 
note to any bridegroom to be, *never dance on ure wedding day
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*Originally posted by Fraudz: *
I know :)
just so kids here know, from what i have heard, teh valima can not be held until the marriage is consummated. thus funguy's point about a busy afternoon.
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thats news to me.
khair i'd prefer to walk around, meet people i havent seen in such a long time. i dont think i can sit for 5 hours :-/
p.s : sp.. we cant wait either :D
Xara
so the groom can dance on the mehndi day but not on the shaddi day, some rule or something? in american and arab weddings the grooms dance on the wedding days, as well as many desi weddings now.
you want yer hubby to stay seated next to u for mug shots all eve? :)
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thats news to me.
khair i'd prefer to walk around, meet people i havent seen in such a long time. i dont think i can sit for 5 hours :-/
p.s : sp.. we cant wait either :D
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oh whether or not it is true is not thge point here, i am just informing y'all what the basis of the pun was there ..