There is this guy (X) and me who really love each other and want to get married…We knew we had some family problems due to which we can’t marry so easily, we will have to face some opposition..The opposition will be more from the guy’s side..
Ok 2 days before i talked to my parents about him and they somehow agreed.. Now am asking X to talk to his family about me and he says that yes i will but it will take some time..i know he really loves me..but the problem is that for the last 2 days we aint getting chance to have a detailed discussion on this topic and the reason is that whenever i start talking to him about this,he says he is very tired right now and dun wanna talk on this topic specifically and says plz tawk something else “hum ye sab issue baad mai discuss keren gay”..
Ok now from this it seems that he is not serious but still i do blv him bcoz for the last 2 days he had been extremely busy in his work and comes home at 11 or 12 p.m..and when after that we talk, he says am tired so lets talk something else not this…now plz tell me should i give him time like 4-5 days more so that we can have discussion on it or do u people think that he is not serious and will never marry me???
I want him to talk to his family as soon as possible but we aint even getting chance to talk about it..should i quit and move on or give him more time??plz i really need sincere advice…thank you all…
Decent you are absolutely correct.. I think you should have done the same thing.. but now that this is done I think you need to give him the time he is asking for as he is stressed right now and may not be ready to be able to discuss this with his parents.
^ but i just want to know if he is trying to pass time with me now or i should blv him and give him some time...???..because i understand it is really hectic for him these days but he can do all the lovey dovey talks but not this one?? so am confused...
Maybe give him some time, I think you need give him some space, (as in not talk to him) and say to him you will talk to him once he has talked to his parents.
That way instead of being lovey dovey - he is getting to the matter at hand - as in some progress in your relationship.
Opposition is pretty much coexistent in every case, If the girls side has no problems then the guys side has, you cant expect everyone to be happy nor can you keep everyone happy. Period. Uss pyaar ka mazaa hi kya jis main mushkilaat naa houn.
Sweetdoll: Seriously, It is too early for you to be judging out on him, especially given the fact how preoccupied he already is with work. Give it a few more days and see how things evolve and then react accordingly. In the meantime tell him about your expectations and the fact that you are very serious about this issue.
Opposition is pretty much coexistent in every case, If the girls side has no problems then the guys side has, you cant expect everyone to be happy nor can you keep everyone happy. Period. Uss pyaar ka mazaa hi kya jis main mushkilaat naa houn.
Sweetdoll: Seriously, It is too early for you to be judging out on him, especially given the fact how preoccupied he already is with work. Give it a few more days and see how things evolve and then react accordingly. In the meantime tell him about your expectations and the fact that you are very serious about this issue.
I think you are trying to push him. Give him him some time. Also, if I am in his place, coming home @ 11pm, talking to my parents and discussing with you when I will talk to my parents, would be the last thing I would want talk about.
Not always. Mine was pretty simple, neither side had any problems with us.
Arranged?
If not then I guess your case is a scarcity these days, 1 out of 50/100 get the privilege to marry without any opposing forces (like in your case) the rest however, not so.
If the bond between the 2 isn't strong, no one is willing to compromise on each others weaknesses, then ofcourse you cannot expect it to end well either. But In some cases even though the opposition exists it tends not to matter much when there is a strong bond, petty issues are not given importance, major issues tend to be resolved by discussing it until a mutual compromise is reached.
When there is a will there most definitely is a way.
^ ya true give him some time, just let him know that you have already spoken 2 ur parents and they know about the whole situation
If you really want to know how serious he is then Lie to him and tell him I was talking to my mom or cousin about my shadi suit and all the arraignments and see how he reacts ..
^ No offence kind Brother. Lies can never end well, lies can make small issues into pretty huge ones in no time, especially in a situation where the girl is concerned about the relationship, apparently is the make or break stage from what I can tell.
I would suggest to avoid lying or playing neat tricks as much as possible and just wait for things to happen. 2 days are too short anyway for her to to be worried, however, if I was you I would make sure he knows you're serious and are looking forward to progress from his side pronto.
busy or not, saying 'baad mein/ phir kabhi' is no solution to a problem.... decide a fixed date/time when he's going to talk to his parents.....dont bug him before that
but if he still hasn't done it by that time...i doubt he ever will
god help me