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April 12, 2011, 2:30pm
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Re: What does Support mean…
okay
the pingpong/table tennis table is not even in the house, its in husbands neighbours house or something, and they all men, so im assuming thyats why i cant just drop by and ask for it back…
secondly, we do have a car, and a driver, but its not the same as wanting to just go out myself..dont want a driver, i just want some time to go out by myself alone, like i used to back home.
my husband still doesnt have a job yet…am i complaining about that? most women would go spare at their husbands all day long if they didnt have a job…so i expect him to atleast be there for me…however he seems to be in status quo…he is looking, but not as he should…its a term i call lazy…
and the reason i cant communicate as well here with stuff, is because of the language barrier…i cant speak pushto well, infact hardly…so if i speak poutside, they know im a foreigner, my urdu is also uk-fied…so its pointless me going out by myself…
i hate this place…im beginning to hate my husband just for bringing me here and hoping il be ok…what am i meant to do if im noy happy? i didnt come here to be unhappy…yes i am trying, maybe not hard enough, however i iwsh was happy…
with the book thing, i want some books, and so my brother whose coming next week to pak, asked him to get me some..now my husband said why u ask him, he wont havre any space in his suitcase, and ur making him carry more weight blah blah…he didnt think at all, tht ok il take you to bookshop, we will find one, somehwere, he just moaned at me…
and to be honest, its not like ive gone from uk to canada, its pakistan, and its peshawar i need to know fluent pushto and i cant just take matters in my own hands,as much as i want to, its not that kinda environment…
Sometimes men are lazy. Sometimes they are inconsiderate. Rarely do they read our minds. But as long as they are not “bad” people, we can make the relationship work. It might mean nagging at him, but if that’s what you have to do, that’s what you have to do.
Women are often the same way :D.
I know you’re frustrated, and I don’t blame you.
But I think as long as you keep thinking of going back “home” – to the UK – as a serious option, you are not going to make this work. This place is not the same as your old home. But it is your home NOW. Now make it your own.