It also says to not make life difficult for your wife…but that went over your head because again we’re practicing selective reading.
**Neither that was he point of discussion nor I have problem wih that. So what’s the point? **
I know living with in-laws per se is not something which certainly makes a woman’s life difficult. If anything it can make her life easy and yes there are and may be diiculties a woman may go through while living with in-laws, it is still her responsibility to do what is good. If she were to be good to her husband, the husband would realize that too. Eventually she has better chance to gain benefit if she shows her better self.
I don’t understand this need to constantly bait and test a woman…its like you expect her to prove her worthiness by making sure she suffers first. Again, WHY would you want to see your spouse in pain or hurt them? Does it make you feel better knowing you managed to make your mom triumph over your wife? Like you “showed” her whose boss?
I see where you might be coming from.
Same argument people have to Allah in essence. Why do you want us to go through the hardship of life before you give us Jannat. I am not saying men are God here before you jump in to that conclusion. I used he word in essence. Reha, men are human too. Living breathing creatures.
**Why do these women who are somehow think living with in-laws is a punishment for them? **
I never said they have o live with BIL or break their privacy? Did I?
I dont know ANY inlaws that provide the DIL with emotional support when she argues with her husband! This is emotional fluff as I like to call it.
Trust me I have and many times.
**You mentioned about somehow it was my personal problem? **
**If any doubt, I have not seen negativity against in-laws in my immediate family circle ever. **
That is why I wrote above in my earlier post. The one big family.
All I see is positive and happy environment around me, where: ( Believe it or not)
**1- In-laws are NOT considered in-laws. Samdhans are friends and respect each other. **
2- Women do not consider susral as susral. People buy gifts for each other on ocassions and sometimes for no reason.
3- Children have a great life where Daadi takes care of grandchild if Bahu is busy or has to go out. (When Daadi comes and stays at couple’s house)
**4- No one in my immediate family had joint family scenario. All weddding couples lived SEPARATELY. Yes separately. But this does not mean everyone can do that. **
We cannot expect that and should still accept that.
5- I also see open environment around me where MIL, DIL and Husband joke around when together and despite husband tries to make his mother to get angry with his wife by making up stuff, MIL laughs it off and chuckles back at him and supports her DIL and makes her own son a “nakku”. In the end everyone laugh.
6- In my immediate family, MIL takes sides of her DIL and admonish her son if he is wrong. No if, and or but.
7- In the end: No divorce, no in-laws silly fighting, no MIL or MIL issues at all.
Here, before you accuse me of not even knowing what it is like to have a joint family issues, let me clarify, I only mentioned about my immediate family. Even in joint families I know same kind of candidness and love is seen like the way where they live apart.
It all depends how everyone carries himself or herself.
Newcomer (DIL) has much more responsibility in this regard.
When women are pregnant, they go to their parents’ home because their mother will care for them whereas most MILs will not.
**Not a rule. Does not happen all the time. **
NO inlaws take care of a woman in her early days of marriage! More emotional fluff that has no real or practical example to even back it up!
Not true, MOST of inlaws do. Please do not generalize.
Correction on helping with the children: most women that work do it to support their home and help their husbands somehow. The least inlaws can do is take care of the kids…if that is too much…then dont demand DIL live with you.
**And what about when husband let them work just to make their degree worthwhile, have them feel worthwhile LOL, **
**giving them space and chance to intermingle with other adults? **
Aren’t these the arguments women ,make to get out of their homes too? and leave children to their in-laws? Think about it.
Ive NEVER personally expected any MIL to gift me anything…not one thing. In fact, my ex MIL was gifted gold and clothes herself. I have enough Alhumdulillah.
Edited.
Diwana, you will have to do better than this because what we’re looking for is actual substance. I need to see something backing up your claim that a woman does NOT have the right to live on her own. That a woman’s mother created a lie and spread it like a rumor to compete with a guy’s mom. 
And if you cannot provide me with that reference, go back and edit your post.
Try again.
I asked first to provide God given RIGHT for her to live separately, that has not been provided. Please bring that proof. Above Verse did not say she has a right to live separately no matter what.
