NomiCA
November 3, 2010, 5:07pm
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Re: What does Islam say?
Oh. My. Lord.
Can you please highlight posts that say exactly that much? I would like to see how men process information and if certain words trigger the above response.
Okay, the idea behind it is simply that a relationship - ANY RELATIONSHIP - is a give and take. When you’re friends with someone, you give respect and take it. When you’re at work, you give respect to your colleagues and take it. If someone disrespects you…you dont stand there and enjoy it because its fun. You either retaliate or walk away because disrespect is wrong. Its a TWO-WAY street. If someone doesnt give you what you are giving them, things dont work.
Similarly, if you expect your wife to care for your parents…you NEED to extend the same courtesy to her. It doesnt make any sense - this weird servitude towards the inlaws - for women because they DO have parents of their own to care for. They arent orphaned when they get married to you and neither are they released from their responsibilities towards their own parents after marriage.
You cannot expect her to be your parents’ full time servant when you’re alive and healthy. Your parents didnt give birth to her, they gave birth to YOU. Unka haqq AAP pe hai…bahu pe nahin. When will you take time out of your day as a son to care for them? Your wife gets sawab for caring for your parents but that doesnt mean you are now exempt. The responsibility is YOURS and you get gunaah for NOT caring for them.
Tell me things that i wrote…do you not expect a guy to do those? you don’t think all those are a guys’ responsibility? if i wrote something extra..you can delete that but please do share what according to you are the responsibilties of guys..