Khurrant-pana sirf aurton mein hi nahin hota hai…its just as bad among men.
There are far fewer number of men who hate their in-laws compared to women.
Diwana,
Why does it seem like your post is placing the entire responsibility of making friends on the woman’s shoulders?
Because it is beneficial for these women not to make enemeies in family.
Men are much smarter in this way also. 
Its a two way street…every relationship. Not just romantic ones.
Two way between who? In-laws and DIL? Why should there be so much rift?
I don’t think its about being adamant either. Its about acknowledging her rights as a woman.
There is no such thing as her ‘right’ to live separately. It is just made up. Mostly by mothers of the girls to use her as a vehicle to satisfy her need of being opposite of boy’s mother. (Samdhan)
Her options should always be open to her because they are HER options.
People don’t get to pick and choose where she lives or tell her how to live. She is a human being and fully capable of making that decision on her own.
Yes, she should have thought about these rights and options before she got married to man living with his parents.
The idea of “tum subha subha mere maa baap ke liye nashta banaogi aur unki khidmat karogi aur unki dekh bhaal karogi aur saat mere bhi saara kaam karogi aur bachon ka bhi karogi” is rubbish and has no place.
Why should there be a need for him to say that? Ever thought this?
Why can’t she just tke care of her in laws, (and he does for his in laws)?
Can they not be one big happy family?
When will this stupid family fued end?
Jab MIL aur FIL ke apne bachon se unki khidmat nahin hoti hai to phir bahir vala akay kya karega? The way YOU will take care of your own parents, no one else will
Nope. Not true. DIL and SonIL do take care of in laws very deeply and this is seen in western culture too. Some of the enlighhtened, liberal women from east have wrong attitude however.
and that is why in their old age they are your responsibility and not the DIL’s.
Sad attitude. Very sad and wrong. One day you will be old. One day you may need someone to help you. Hope you do not ever but do not say that.
Its not about being khurrant…its about apni zimmidariyon ka ehsaas. Allah swt has **not **released the woman from her responsibilities towards her own parents so she can take care of her husband’s.
Both husband and wife have responsibility to each other parents. Depending on who is more capable and who is more needy.
The other thing is, if girls weren’t cornered into a position where they were TOLD to live this way…I’m pretty sure they wouldn’t be so stubborn about it.
Again why should there be a need to be TOLD?