Re: What does Islam say?
Most of us girls on here don’t want to put our sons on such a pedestal whilst bringing them up that they can’t/won’t stand on their own two feet and **spend their whole lives living out of one bedroom in our homes with their future wives (and kids).. **
I can’t think of much worse than that level of ‘mutual dependence’ which means a mother can’t function without her son around or vice versa. Most of us on here have had a decent education and most will also work, at least for a while, before we marry and have children so we prob won’t be in the same position that a lot of our mothers, grandmothers, great grand mothers etc were in.. being taught growing up that they’d be helpless without being ‘looked after’ (financially and emotionally) by their husbands or sons..
If it’s ‘selfish’ or ‘disrespectful’ to live away from inlaws that must mean 90% of the Muslim Ummah are those things (basically everyone apart from us desis lol)..