What do people automatically assume about you?
(I can’t remember if there is already a thread about this.)
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That I have a lot of money.
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How would I know 
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that I don’t give a damn what they think or assume about me, and they ain’t wrong.
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How does one become like that
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when you stop playing by the rules set by others.
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doc, I like your attitude :k:
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^Rules se koi completely bhaag nahi sakta. Nobody is wholly free. We’re all tethered by the rules and laws of society, and relationships, and even our own conscience.
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The doctor (in my humble opinion) is not entirely careless as he fancies himself to be. 
I’ve seen instances on the forum where he has cared about how he was perceived. He apologizes when he’s wrong…a beautiful (but rare) quality in our times…so it shows that he does have the ability to introspect. Not everyone can and many who do will suppress it.
Life01,
That’s a difficult question to answer. When it comes to matters that you know will not affect anyone else’s zaat in any way, is not an injustice, nor a transgression of someone else’s rights…then it’s okay to not give a damn. Whether or not one is religious also plays a role. If you’re religious you will judge your actions (even the ones that don’t affect others) from that perspective…is it halal/haram/jaiz etc. But having that ability to introspect about your own actions and even how others perceive you is necessary because it enables self-growth, to make amends, to maintain relationships, to better your duniya and in turn your akhirat.
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I care about others’ emotions and feelings, but it does not necessarily mean I pay attention to what they think of me.
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In order to “care” (in any capacity) about anyone’s feelings, they have to be brought to one’s “attention” or awareness first. Caring follows attention.
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I’ve had people assume that I’m too nice; that I’d let them get away with anything. But no…I will call you out on your words/actions if need be.
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hudi baba!
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Real question is what do you believe about yourself…
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I understand that. But i dont mean caring/respecting others.I mean caring about our self image and what people will think about our lifestyle ways or choices etc..
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It is a state of mind which from what I have seen either comes with how you were raised or through series of experiences. You can start by telling yourself that people will always talk and whatever their opinions maybe, it should have no bearing on you. I mean you could be pretty close to a saint and someone will still have a problem with something but at the end of the day that is their problem, not yours.
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When someone expresses an unfavorable opinion about us, it will produce inner discomfort. Even if it’s done by those closest to us and whom we trust the most…like our parents. That’s just human nature. I don’t think you can switch that off..at least not completely. But you do have a choice in whether you want to dwell on it or move on from it.
Other people do not pay your bills…they did not raise you…they haven’t made any major sacrifice for you where you “owe” them …you will not incur a dent in their pockets if you don’t live according to their views. The way you dress, your relationship status, your education, your career choices…have no bearing on the life of some cousin, or former classmate, or some aunti or uncle that is either in your social circle or extended family; it’s not hurting them in any way. If they want to increase their “bread pressure” by fixating on what they feel are your flaws…then that’s their problem.
You shrug it off through self-affirmation (self-talk) and move on. People spare nobody (as Aqua stated above)…nobody…not those who are single, not the ones who are married, not those who are childless, not those with children, not those who are employed, not those who are jobless, …people will always talk about people. I’ve seen people talk crap about those who seemingly have everything and are successful.
I’ve even seen people say awful things to those who haven’t wronged them in anyway; whom they hardly know. Nobody is immune from this. And they’ve done you a favor by showing you this side of themselves; it makes it easier to weed out insincere people from your life.
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Caring about what people think of me is useless. Most people don’t even know what they think of themselves.
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I think I am awesome. For the most part. 
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sadqay jawaan, wadi self-assurance