What do you usually do?

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I wouldn't go and just be upfront about it. My friends don't do this type of thing. If were work related, I'd just decline due to religious reasons and it's all good.

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Actually its not weird. If you're suuuuuuuuper super conscious of drinking pop or anything for that matter while everyone is having cocktails then everyone else will be as well. Make a choice...do you care about what others think or are you going to change your beliefs?

Those are Executives of companies and in their situations entertaining clients might become necessary. This is a simple outing...let's treat it as such. I don't think she'll even spend 20 bucks let alone 2-3K!

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I don't know. it may sound weird but honestly, anyone who's ever hung out with a non Muslim will tell you...it's relaly not that weird. Although Im trying to think, over the last 10 years of going out with friends if I"ve ever even eaten with someone who drank alcohol....though it really wouldn't bother me one bit.

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I've eaten with people who drink all the time. They know I only have water, not for religious reasons, but for health reasons. Soft drinks are just sugars and I almost always drink water. Even if everyone there drinks, usually only a few people get alcohol. If you think it's weird it's probably in your head.

If you're uncomfortable, just fake being at ease until you actually are.

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Good choice. You ain't missing notn.

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Not really, we recently attended my husband's office party. There were few goras who had lemonade or soft drink. It is not weird when you stick to your beliefs while enjoying a nice evening out.

lusi-

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Well then why not just make the choice of not even leaving home to go to these events/dinners/meetings?
Let's just stick to eating fish burger at McDees?!

Ok, yes in certain cases such as hers it makes sense. Especially if you are out and about with friends

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I guess it depends on the people you hangout /socialize with too. If you know the people very well then I guess they will understand.

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Well that's an extreme view. If you're not going to drink, might as well not go out or go slumming for McDs (no offense to the McD lovers)?

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I think it depends on how comfortable you are in your own skin and how much what others think affects you. It wasn't so bad in Canada, but now that I'm living in Germany where people love to drink, esp beer...it's hard to avoid a situation where others are drinking. Husband and I don't drink. Husband even entertains big clients without drinking and has never had any issues. Yes, we get asked, because it's strange for people here (we were never asked much about it in Canada), but so what? You tell them you don't want to/feel like it and that's that. Heck, we went to Oktoberfest to check out what it's like and everyone knows Oktoberfest is a essentially a beer festival. But we just had other drinks. The servers looked at us funny and even insisted on us getting beers but we just laughed and refused. And our friends know that about us and they just laugh it off with us.

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Hey if that floats your boat...why not? My point is if you are giong to be strict in your beliefs...start getting comfortable with them. Or change them if it bothers you that much. What other options are there?

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Are you kidding? If you live in countries where drinking is a social norm and you stopped hanging out with people who drink, you would probably become a social pariah and likely miss out on important business deals with clients or promotions within the company. My work involves a lot of people interaction. I am not at the executive level yet but I do attend client meetings like the ones you mentioned where at the start of a project, you and your team entertain the client and discuss important business details over a meal. If I used the excuse that I am not comfortable sitting through a meeting where alcohol will be served, I'd probably get fired or never get promoted.
I live in Toronto and it's so multicultural, hardly anyone would raise an objection for your personal choice over not drinking. It's really not as big of a deal to westerners as you're making it out to be.

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Larki tum ghar se bahir kyun nikli ho to work like a man :emmy: Berry bad, berry berry bad.

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^ Sara, daant kyon rahi hain? maine kya kia hai? :flowers:

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What you quoted was just an example I gave in replying to somebody else.
I understand that the majority of western ppl would not have an issue if someone does or does not drink when they are. My only concern was just for some extreme cases, where it might be seen awkward and disrespectful for someone to not share a drink with others.
As for OP's case, she has a straightforward choice to make.

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mere daant dard kar te hain iss liye

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We shouldn't go to such parties. Try your best to be in the company of righteous people.
I'd turn down the invitation.

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Tu dentist ke pass jao na :D

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I can help with that. All I need is a pair of pliers and a hammer. When can I come over?

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So using personal examples:

Going out for "drinks" after work means getting together with colleagues. They may drink beer, wine or something alcoholic and I stick to diet coke or will ask for ask them it they make a daquiri or margariti or pina colada without alcohol. The restaurant people are happy to oblige and not once have my colleagues mocked me.

Holiday work party at a relatives home - execs and senior corporate staff were invited to a catered event and the drink menu was strictly mocktails, sodas and juices. No one was weirded out by an absence of alcohol. In fact, the caterer LOVED making the mocktails and said he was going to add it to his menu since other clients (and we're talking about gora clients) would apreciate having non-alcoholic options.

Invited to a super-upscale wine restaurant whose menu specifically pairs bottles of wine valued at 100s of dollars with each course of the meal. The host was a wine afficionado. Declined drinks and again, not a big deal. We each have choices to make and declining drinks isn't something most others will judge you on.