Ok, here it is. I am really really furious right now. sad and dissapointed as well.
A friend of mine is coming over to visit me and cuz she has a baby I need a car for the days she is gonna be with me. I checked the prices for renting a car and they were beyond my budget.
So I hoped that I could borrow his car. We have known each other for almost 1 year, getting married etc. But he completely denied to borrow me his car saying that my friend will ask me whose car it is (we havent made anything official yet) and also that he will need his car those days. Also he gave me a long lecture about the price of the car, insurance policies and how relationships can be effected by the other party damaging some of the other’s stuff if something might be damaged.
Now I never ever think like that. If someone needs something I give it to them , sometimes also accepting that it might limit me for that period. I never think like that if someone damages my stuff it will hurt my relationship to that person from side if I keep feeling bad about the damage.
What really pissed me is that I have even given him the key of my appartment because he was insisting that it will be nice to have the key for nice surprises. I didnt feel that it was right to give the keys to him since we arent married yet, but since he kept insisting I gave up and gave the extra set to him(it did end up in a good surprise since there were nice roses in my appartment one day)
I dont know. am I too sensitive???or is he being stingy about it???
I just got sooooo furious thinking that here I am, came all the way to his city (had a long distance relationship to him before coming here) and I miss my family a lot. He is not even willing to move to my city cuz of his family situation and I am the one who am gonna leave my family behind.
I dont know y but today I seriously got 2nd thoughts about marrying him.
Am I being too sensitive?
no you are not. you have a legitimate gripe, so does he BTW, he is right about insurance policies etc. These will become serious issues, I would extend the wedding date and have him move in with you and then start monitoriing him like a hawk to see how he behaves , one up kick him in the balls and throw his arse out in the street.
Why did you move to his city if things havent been made 'official'?
And yeah, he should say "sure honey here are the keys, drive her as fast as you can". :p
What the heck are you guys talking about? Insurance etc is NOT a valid issue whatsoever. As a matter of fact, even if she totalls it shouldn't matter. We are talking about his wife to-be. The guy has commited even though has not made official yet so in HIS mind this IS the woman. Now, if he needs the car as well for work etc then that's a separate and valid reason because afterall, either one of them will end up renting the car so it might as well be the one whose friend is coming to town but all this insurance stuff is totally bakwas. The guy is an ullu ka patha.
PS-
I've rented car from priceline.com as low as $17 a day quite recently by entering a bid. Try that option.
Roman has hit the nail on the head. You are justifiably frustrated, i'd be extremely angry and hurt that he should bring up insurance with you, especially when u are due to get married. Khota. Sorry that u should have to hear such respectful terms for your guy, but in this situation he is acting like a khota.
Well. it is a growing process. Making money, saving it and then sharing it.. are all different stages..they come with maturity. Your boy will learn. Don’t fret yet. He has treated you like he would treat his guy friends..maybe you need to remind him who you are…then take a picture of the reaction on his face and post it here for further analysis :-)
I am still mad!he knows I am mad at hime and just smsed last night to say good night. didnt contact me this morning to ask how I am....
dil kar raha hai saara kuch call off kar doun....but parents are involved...hmmm I am so angry..yet also scared...what if he is like that after marriage....
he refused to borrow his car to his sister just 2 days ago because she was having some friends over and needed an extra car. Now he says that he cant just give it to me as for the reasons I wrote in my first post....he gave his sister same reasons....but I though I was special:(
