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Meaning you for blaming yourself and not kicking his butt or him for refusing to give you his car...
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Well I have been trying to rationalize my reactions since I dont wanna kick his butt if he is right in this situation.
But in now is my mind accepting that he allienates me like this!!!!
Especially when he himself use all I own as if he owns it.
never thought that I would start thinking at that level about mine and his owning stuff!
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He sure doesnt love you, if my fiance asked for em, i wouldnt even give it a second thought. Let alone let em get hurt over a stupid car.
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Wow - he sounds like a selfish SOB. So it is OK for him to have your apt keys - what if he loses them, and your apt gets robbed - think of the problems then! Ok I'm exaggerating but you could have come up with the same excuses when giving him your apt keys.
From your little anecdote, I don't trust this guy very much. It makes me wonder how much he will be willing to share after the marriage.
It is his car, not his life that you asking for. I could understand that if he has to drive back and forth to work and you cannot drop/pick him up for some reason.
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Insurance os not the issue, he just doesn't want to give you the car. You can call any insurance company and they will tell you that if you don't live with the person in same house and borrow the car for a day or 2, it's still covered.
I think you should change your house locks and when he asks, you say you don't have any insurance and if something he loses keys and someone robs this place, you have no way to recover them.
Then thank him to make you realize the priorities of materials in your life.
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I actually would. But mainly because if my wife totals the car whilst driving without insurance through hitting someone, she would be legally liable for it and could be sued by the other insurance company directly. Also, driving without insurance is a criminal offence and he should not be involved in encouraging or assisting anyone to break the law.
In other words, it could bankrupt us.
I totally agree with her fiance.
However, the correct course of action for him to take is to give her the money to rent a car. If your fiance is in need you should move heaven and earth to do whatever is legally possible to help her.
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^^Girls please take note 
This is not illegal. People borrow their friends cars all the time, they lend it to relatives without thinking twice because it’s family. Chameli is his fiance, he can give her the insurance papers. I could understand if she was a reckless driver he would think twice but I don’t think thats even an issue in this situation. All this “what if” crap is such utter BS.
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Just because people do it all the time does not make it legal. If you could let anyone drive on your insurance policy then you would not need secondary drivers to be named on it.
If you have car insurance already, then you are normally insured on any vehicle that the owner permits you to drive. In Chameli’s case, she does not seem to own a car, so she has no insurance.
I would allow my friends and family here to drive my car, but only those who themselves have car insurance because then my car would be covered on their policy.
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and this is the first time he hasnt come through for her, werent there other issues you had with him before? wow that too in a year! Bail out while you can sista
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You have secondary drivers on insurance policies because those people drive the cars often, emphasis on often. This is a one time thing, it's not like she's asking for herself, she has a friend coming for a few days. He claims to love her and wants to marry her, that should prevail rather than let me sit and calculate what can happen if i let her borrow my car.
Chameli he didn't let his sister borrow the car, and now you. It should tell you a lot about him, and ur relationship.
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Maddy, you're totally off the mark here. The ISSUE is not insurance. Because if it was then he could have called the insurance company and add her as a driver. And this is regardless of whether or not he has keys to her apartment.
It was incumbent upon him in this situation to give a geniune gesture by offering to either rent the car for her due to his inability to lend his own, or to call his insurance company and add her as driver. There are certain protocols you've to follow to show your sincerity. And NOT following those protocols IS the main issue here.
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Mad Sci, that's fine and all, but after marriage, a hubby should be paying for car insurance for his wife or putting her as a secondary driver on his insurance - whatever, depends on if they're sharing a car or not - so what you're saying is a non-issue.
I think the guy is pretty calous.
Chameli - how well do you know the guy and his family, and how well do they know yours? Keep in mind, if you're moving to a new country for him, you might be left in a real vulnerable position in the event you find out this guy is a nutjob.
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Am i and maddy the only ones who think the guy may be kind of has a point?
I dont know of any insurance company which will cover you, if your name is not included.
Bottomline: it's a misdemeanor, like maddy said, if you drive without insurance. Yet we let our friends and family drive our cars all the time because of the wishful thinking that car accidents couldn't happen to us.
But they do happen, and the primary drivers get in trouble with the law. If anything, it shows that your fiance is extremely careful and a prudent person. But sometimes in love, you have to take risks and chances. May be he should have? He should have at least rented a car for her?
And giving him your apartment key is not the same as getting his car keys. Apples and oranges.
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I certainly agree. The guy is failing in his duty as a fiance by not helping her. I fully agree that he should rent a car for her.
However, we are making certain assumptions about his financial status. We are assuming that he can afford to add another driver or rent a car.
If helping her in a legal manner is within his financial reach, and he is still not helping her, then he is an insensitive jerk.
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There is no such thing as a one time exemption to manadatory car insurance.
As far as not lett Chameli or his own sister drive the car, it does mean that he’s treating exactly equal to his own family, which is the way things should be.
I would really flag it out as a huuuuuuuge problem if he let his sister drive it but not Chameli!!!
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Maddy bhai jaan, I'm sure if you were in this situation you would have said a blunt NO too. :-)
Calculations and legality don't mean much to women. I think you should consider that in your argument too. Here is a pearl of wisdom..Start thinking like a woman, show some emotion or you will be fighting everyday with your wife :-D
If he had explained his concerns to chamelli instead of saying NO..that would have been a better scenario. If she is smart, she would reconsider her request. Even if she bangs the car after that..that should be OK :-)
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Once again i will fillin’ in for our resident social scientist and post my observations. It’s a classic example of how bad men have it. If you think like maddy, rational and ruthless, you are a cold-hearted bast$rd. But then if you think like Fayz, you are a sexist pig. The problem with women is that they want to eat the cake and have it too, and when they do, you have forced us to think like fayz.
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or maybe you guys can be a LITTLE sensitive and women wont complain!
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^ right. he just wanted to call me a sexist pig. That's ok :-)
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Fayz, I think he meant sexy pig :p