What do you have your children call the maid?

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I just got a live in maid in Dubai who is Indian. The indian maids seem to go by Didi here which was I was going to do but my mom suggested Khala jee (i’d use Massi) because the maid is 50 and has grand sons who are 10…

I was curious what is the norm???

In our family most of the maids/nokers are family nokers from our village we have known for years and years…so saying cha cha jee or khala jee seems ok to me. Not sure how it would be taken if i did that here.

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For some reason when I go back to Pakistan I feel weird asking the servants to do menial tasks

I feel like its Slavery

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^yp same here but i guess they can call her khala ji...

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I agree with you all but she's been great. She's helping out a lot. She's helping me out with tasks i can not do b/c i'm 8 months pregnant and have a toddler...and hubby is working long hours/travels.

She does my cleaning and cooking, sorting through boxes/closes I NEVER have a chance to do

Anyhow it's been amazing how much better i feel am mentally and physically with her help.

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aww ok well just get them to call her khala ji then

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My kids call the "maid" Mama

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Why not by her name??

We have always called our maid by her name and she's okay with that. She's been with the family since I was 10.

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When I went to Pakistan last year, to stay at my Aunt's house, the older maid was called "Ama" and the younger maid was just called by her name. The gardener and cleaner were called "Chacha".

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She was okay . Because she had no choice ......

We were not allowed to call Our helpers ( yea ma dad didnt like calling them servants ) by their names ....

Therefore we ended up calling them Baba/shaab and Amma/ Bu'aa jee

Sha'irs and their wives.
Sha'irs and their wives.
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She was okay . Because she had no choice ......
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Aliyish you are jumping to conclusions, a constant habit of yours that makes you unlikeable

punishing hubby by denying sex
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Pardon ?

You dont know me much to point out my constant habits .....

P.s: I damn care if me and my statements evoke antipathetic feelings...

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I dont think elders should be called by their names no matter what their status/job profession is, be it a maid or gardner or even the post man.

Khud to kuch keh nahi sakta k what they shud be called lekin It would be suitable to call em uncle aunty baba ji ... etc and this way they will feel like a family and they will take care of you like a family and will be easy for the kids to refer to them by.

but here and there when we did need a helping hand, those who did we called them ''kammi'z'' basically, helped out and did the work and obviously sis get paid for their service at the end :)

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You dont know me much to point out my constant habits
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that rule should be applied both ways.

Thanks

fbi, i see what you are saying, however calling someone by their name doesnt mean disrespect.

I dont like calling people who arent related to me aunty/khala/chacha.

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Ok but here's another question.

I'd rather not do Khala b/c my kids will call my cousins khala.

I won't be using Massi so i'm fine with that.

I also wonder if it's an Indian vs Pakistani thing on what people call the maid.

punishing hubby by denying sex
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if she goes by Didi why not didi?

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or "baji"

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Mai Ji

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I dont like the word Mai

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"buwa"

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treating servants and maids with dignity is the number one thing you should always give to them.
and then comes the pay.
ask them what they would like to be addressed as, out of respect.
and do that. they will be happy you considered their say in that.
best,
Dushwari