So i was having a conversation with a friend and we were discussing plans for ISB when I am down. Chicks was the subject matter and the ISB breed are unique.
Anyway the conversation turned to 20 something jaded women in ISB. They want the guy to have all of this and that but the question I have is what do they bring to the table or desi women in general?
Desi men of marriage potential must have:
A job
Their own home away from parents
A steady career and the ability to support the wife and the kids
Relatively good looking
The material needs to maintain the life style the lady currently has.
Basically rich enough so that they can live comfortably.
But what does the girl bring to the table?
Cooking? The guy is well to do anyway so he can hire a cook.
House keeping? A maid can do that
Extra money through a working woman - does he really need that extra cash? He is still making the same money even if she was not there.
The only thing I can think that a modern day 20 something desi girl brings to table is semi-adequate genes and a whole lot of attitude.
But seriously in a marriage situation between two people why does the girl bring to the relationship in real terms?
if she doesnt bring anything then why is there a need to marry??..no one’s forcing them
have guys started having kids on their own, so they dont need wives anymore.. & mind you this isnt the only thing…the girls turn the house into a home ( but then again cant generalize for all the females)
Maybe not 20 something but in a lot of relationships, the mentioned list is brought in by the girls, but they still marry the guy & help him stabilize
“semi adequate genes and a whole lot of attitude?”
That (to me) translates as “somewhat average genes.” What if she were to think the same of the guy? As far as attitude is concerned…who doesn’t have attitude (men and women) about some issue…at some point or the other? And what relationship is always in a constant state?
There are women who these days have a stable career…and can manage the cooking/cleaning on their own OR hire someone to do it for them. They might also wonder why they’d need a man or what he could possibly bring to the table?
And there are some women who do the cleaning, cooking, raising the children…with no pay…let alone appreciation or respect.
I guess it’s the desire to have a companion…who sincerely cares about your well-being, is there with you through your ups and downs and all that life brings…and doesn’t have to be paid for looking after you or your home…and doesn’t do these things for the sole intention of being paid…because there is that emotional connection (love…affection…whatever you wanna call it) behind the actions and responsibilities. You don’t necessarily get all that with just a maid or a cook.
Marriage is a partnership. For one, it is companionship for (hopefully) life. And you can’t put a price on it. But both men and women benefit from it.
I would ask the same question you are asking of women who believe in relying on the guy completely (without a GOOD reason). Now, if you as a guy want a kid and hopefully good upbringing, you might have to pay for that. Having kids, in my opinion, is the only thing that justifies financially-dependent wives (provided that they get help with household chores if they work as well).
Keep in mind that when most women “look” for those characteristics, they wanna make sure you’d make a good dad and a good provider, consciously or unconsciously.
Basically it comes down to roughly one of these two arrangements:
Both husband and wife work and bring in the money. Both take care of the household. Both take care of the kids. Wherever one is doing more, the other does more in some other department to balance it out.
Or
The husband brings in the money. The wife makes sure the house is clean, there is food ready, kids are doing well (which is a 24/7 job).
You can see why women in the second category would look for what they do look for. Provided that what they are doing is what you would like in your life, as well.
didn’t really read through all of the rant in post 1, but merely skimming through the list one can’t help but conclude that this is a case of a pretty girl and lallu guy.
yawn The inability to comprehend basic English is amazing. But the question again is what do women bring to the table I have yet to see a proper answer let alone any answer.
Mind you Curious Lady provided a very solid reply.
But the question remains what do women bring to the table that enhances the marriage?
Do they bring in security? Nope.
Do they bring in stability? Nope.
Do they bring in loyalty? Not always.
& mind you this isnt the only thing…the girls turn the house into a home ( but then again cant generalize for all the females)
Let see if this generates the amount of responses needed for the “final reveal”.