Re: ~*what do we look for in a life partner~*
Good topic Colorful Eyes, but i'd like to ask that you guys please stick to the topic... thanks :)
^^ are you a guy who doesn't want his life partner to tlk to much?
yh...coz u knw some gals talk way tooooo much ...and cant shut up lolz.... and i dont want that habit in my partner.
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Hmm I see people have highlighted education, and once upon a time I probably would have said that too. But honestly - now I don't think that is all that important, as what does it show really?
Education can come in many forms not just academic, and I'd prefer to be with someone that was worldy, rather than someone that had acheived greatly academically speaking, but that wasn't as worldy.
Over education, I'd look for someone that is ambitious and an achiever, as there many ways to reach the same goal. For some professions you can do a host of courses instead of a degree, so what does it matter if he doesn't have a degree - as long as he is still able provide for me and the family, and will always strive to do the best by us.
Having said that I would choose an 'educated family' over a 'non-educated' one. As I say an individual's education isn't as important to me, but the overall family background is. I can only speak from experience, but I have found that families that are new to 'education' are overall more narrow minded. They grapple with the idea of girls working after marriage, and there is far less equality between the males and females of a family. They are also more likely to follow culture than religion. Whereas in an 'educated' family where generations and generations people have been educated they are more likley to see the difference between culture and religion, and treat boys and girls more equally when it comes to things like working etc. A vast generalisation? Perhaps...but it's based on what I've seen.
Anyway rant over - other things I'd look for are:
Imaan
Honest (not sure how I'd judge this)
Respect for elders
Ambition
Charitable
Humour
Intelligence
Caring
Courteousy
Humble
Good listener
That is quite a lot of things, but I think many of those traits go hand in hand.
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^ very good thnx for sharing, now the question is how do we recognize these qualities in our future partner?
most guys will be all sweet b4 marriage, but after marriage is when we see the reall them,
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Colourful eyes, yeah that's a valid point - I think I'm inherently a good judge of character.
However more specifically - I guess it would take more than one meeting or conversation to establish this.
Imaan - I guess by their knowledge/or desire for knowlede of Islaam - whether they make the effort to pray etc.
Honest - as I said not sure, but perhaps by asking some very difficult questions and seeing how well they respond?
Respect for elders - How they seem to get along with their parents, if they pay your parents appropriate respect?
Ambition - Seeing how their career/life has progressed. Determining thier goals, and seeing if they've met any of them or have an idea of how they might?
**Charitable - **Perhaps asking if they've every done charity work? Finding out how much they know about the different forms of charity in islam?
**Humour - **That's subjective anyway
**Intelligence - **Again thats probably subjective to a degree
**Caring - **By how they tak about friends and family?
**Courteousy - **How they treat others around them
**Humble - **Whether they appear materialistic, or are modest. Do they appear to show off?
**Good listener - **If they ask you questions do they actually listen to the answers?
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ok trust is very important to me, but how do i go about finding if he is trustable or not.....
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oh yeah trust - that should be on my list too
ok trust is very important to me, but how do i go about finding if he is trustable or not.....
ask him:D
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Strong Character! this is what i saw in my husband while considering his rishta.. every other quality came in bonus :)
what do u think bachoo, if i go up to a guy and ask him if he is trustable you think he is gonna say no:smilestar:
Oh well… if u were to ask me than i would say yes…:DDont know abt the other guyz thou… and btw i am not a bachoo anymore i am jawaan now …
Re: ~*what do we look for in a life partner~*
i suppose it doesnt matter what we look for in our life partners, last decision is always with parents...sigh
Strong in Eemaan (atleast more than me),
Strong in character (so that in my rest of the life I cpuldnt even suspect him once in any of the wildest dream even)
Caring,
Respecting,
Matured.
I have found 90%, rest I have the trust in my abilities to mould him accordingly!:D
i suppose it doesnt matter what we look for in our life partners, last decision is always with parents...sigh
probably for you... not for me..... kyonki apni biwi main khud choose karoon ga.......
Strong in Eemaan (atleast more than me), Strong in character (so that in my rest of the life I cpuldnt even suspect him once in any of the wildest dream even) Caring, Respecting, Matured.
**I have found 90%, **rest I have the trust in my abilities to mould him accordingly!:D
ohh i like the sound of tht last bit.
Question: how do we Mould guys??
ohh i like the sound of tht last bit.
Question: how do we Mould guys??
by constantly kicking there butt.
Once guy fall in love with the girl, he starts caring about her.
At that point girls get to be all they are, sensitive, angry every thing.
Poor guy keep molding him self accordingly.
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^ Thank you for sharing that.
Now, I guess people would like to know how to make a guy fall in love with them. lol.
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^ lol
^ Thank you for sharing that.
Now, I guess people would like to know how to make a guy fall in love with them. lol.
Well I wasn't sharing, common knowledge from observing lol
Well this is serious part. Every one is looking all the time.
You will be find before you know it. Its gonna happen so fast that it going to knock you off your feet.
BUT
You need to have faith at all times. Every single moment. If you lose faith and try to force things to happen you end making wrong choices.
Making it hard for you and for "real" some one.
SO dear have faith. Very important.
men have mastered the art of pretending to listen, this lands them into a pile of other problems =) then comes their ego.. another cause! Just when a girl shows signs of interest they go and goof it all up!
A guy has to be sensitive, caring and understanding as well..but then again where are such men these days? sigh