i mean after the wedding day, how were you at home with the inlaws, were you your normal self, or did you restrain urself bieng you, did you get into any housework or did you wait few days, did you confidently say u wanted to go out and about with hubby or did you wait tuntil u were asked…basically whats the way to go once you settled in a new home the day after the wedding, and since we are coming back to uk after a month, so im only wid inawls for amonth, how should i be then…should i start cooking etc stragithaway…whats normal
plus i have habit of waking up at 11, 12 pm on holidays, i guess thats too late to be waking up after marriage…lol…
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Nadz these days all the time thinking about marrying and dreaming about marrying. She might be too happy for getting more than she expcted so she is flying in ther air. So let her fly in the air. It's normal. Unexpected things can make ppl high.
Re: what did you do after the wedding?NO, NOT THAT!
i mean after the wedding day, how were you at home with the inlaws, were you your normal self, or did you restrain urself bieng you, did you get into any housework or did you wait few days, did you confidently say u wanted to go out and about with hubby or did you wait tuntil u were asked.....basically whats the way to go once you settled in a new home the day after the wedding, and since we are coming back to uk after a month, so im only wid inawls for amonth, how should i be then...should i start cooking etc stragithaway......whats normal
plus i have habit of waking up at 11, 12 pm on holidays, i guess thats too late to be waking up after marriage...lol...
Typically bahu isn't expected to do housework so soon after hte wedding, So unless your MIL is old and frail and is clearly physically sturggling, dont even offer to help (i mean beyondputting your dishes away or cleaning up after yourself).
Same goes for cooking, ur not expected to start cooking for the whole tabbar all at once (Unless ur that poor girl who opened up a thread abt how her bf wanted her to cook on the valima day). Unless you're like a super duper chef and LOVE to cook and are already an expert and want to treat the in laws.
Also, most couples dont ask their in-laws for permission to go out. they just do. In fact in laws even encourage htem to go out. I wouldn't worry about what time I wake up b/c you'd still need to adjust your body clock, after all the wedding festivities and time change, depending on how soon you get to pak before the wedding.
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i have not seens a newly married girl in my life leave her bedroom b4 3pm...that said i still get a bit annoyed of this habbit.
my cousin got married in feb as well, and she only comes out of her room to e-at and doesn't do anything in the house. however i would not suggest doing this- otherwise ur saas will not be too happy.
i think 1 month is plenty of time for rest and adjustment, and then slowly start trying to mix urself up with the family. and pick up on subtle hints ur saas might give u :)
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make sure you get ready - wear nice kaam wale kapre -
put on makeup and wear jewellery, esp churiyan and earrings.
dont touch housework not for the first mnth.. believe me once u get ur hands into it theyre not coming out. But if your saas is frail and doesnt have help then that shud be ok. just dont get into making rotis and khaana the first day.
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You said you're only with your in laws for a month. If I were you, I wouldn't take that time to act like a porcelain doll, I would try and mingle to the max and get to know them better- aside from just regular things that you already know about them as your new rishtay-daar. Healthy relationships are built upon strong communication and if the rest of your household is going about their regular lives post your marriage, try to get engaged and help out- take your SIL shopping, hang out with your PIL, take the opportunity to meet with the extended family...I wouldn't really worry a whole lot about taking on ALL the housework duties and the kitchen and what not, but I wouldn't sit around like a new bride either. :)
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at least show ur interest in house work.. no body will ask u to start cooking and cleaning and if u will try so they will themselve stop u.. if there is a servant serving u then fine but if some elder is doing things for u then u can atleast say " ap q takleef kerti hein, mein khud Khana le leti hon" or "ye bartan mein kitchen mein chorr aati hon" etc
