Re: What counts as 'impressive' for a girl?
Sometimes people get so cruel in their arguments.
@nnabid, perhaps samajhari is more imp than chalaki.
choro chalaki lets learn zumba dance or like taekwondo. Martial arts will help dealing with inlaws. And practising a bit of sultan rahis bharak. Oye kakay....shairan naal panga ni changa
Re: What counts as 'impressive' for a girl?
well I tried staying bholi for a year and they walked all over me, my health deteriorated and I almost got divorced.... sooooooooo chalaki the way to go for me :( but martial arts might help too :P
What experience? The national manager with the stay at home husband? That only supports my point about every household being different since in place of herself, she has her husband home. I don’t even know why that is even being used. She makes more money so she worked but it’s not like she’s working from home or juggling…she actually had someone step in her place…she switched roles…she did not add to her own.
Yes I consider my experience valid…why not? You’re guilty of the same.
Aap bhi kaafi shauqeen mizaj lagti hein 
Aur agar itni himmat dikha hi rahi ho to aakheer mein buzdili kyun?
Re: What counts as 'impressive' for a girl?
well I tried staying bholi for a year and they walked all over me, my health deteriorated and I almost got divorced.... sooooooooo chalaki the way to go for me :( but martial arts might help too :P
ofcourse you understand your situation better. i was just sharing my opinion. and sorry to read all that. ao hug karo jaldi say
This lack of acknowledgement seems to to be more from people other than your own husband. If I am right about that, then the only extra you need to do is to commit to making your relationship with husband as happy as possible. Your ‘sasuraal’ will have no choice but to acknowledge how happy your husband is with you and how deeply you care for one another. You really ought not to care about things apart from that while being genuine and straight in your relationships with in laws. Someone rightly said, just making small efforts that give him joy and care when he needs it will go a long way in solidifying your bond with him. Along with him doing it for you too, ofcourse. And the taking you to a nice country for a week is maybe just that in his estimate, or you could tell him what you would rather have him do that makes you feel nice. And as for what would count as impressive, keep up your hobbies and interests that maybe drew your husband to you in the first place so that you are happy and “impressed” with the way your life and you are shaping.
Re: What counts as 'impressive' for a girl?
I get the attention part but that might be for numerous reasons considering someone's upbringing and the environment they themselves were raised in, schooling probably. But what IF your hubby wasn't appreciative of what you did everyday considering its all for him. Its a what if, but how would you react or feel? Maybe that's where it starts from. Not all moms are whiney, sometimes they really are screaming out for attention their not getting. Like someone said, you don't know the ins and out of a marriage to realize where they are coming from.
I think though your talking about girls who were never really career people anyway and chose not to necessarily work ever unless they wanted to. Like people who knew motherhood would be their occupation from day 1. Honestly, in that regard that's why I feel like its so important to make sure you always keep all your options open and you have something else to fall back on because "the grass isn't always greener on the other side." Reality hits sometimes when it's too late.
As the saying goes. "We accept the love we think we deserve, " what is wrong in expecting gratitude and appreciation, I show my partner appreciation on a daily basis because it makes her feel good and that is what is the most important thing, you are supposed to make your loved ones feel good, what kind of love is that where you are arguing about who did more and needs applause, Isn't it for better or for worse, what if one partner gets handicapped and the other one has to do it all, aren't we still supposed to love and appreciate them. My partner decided to be a SAHM, she has a professional degree, she developed some sort of nerve issue with her hand and can't do too much house work. I help a lot with house work, work long hours and tell her on a daily basis that I love and appreciate her, not because of house work or finances but because I love her.
Re: What counts as 'impressive' for a girl?
Disappointing how underappreciated moms and wives are in this thread. You guys really think those roles require no effort.