What counts as 'impressive' for a girl?

[khattichic]

Re: What counts as ‘impressive’ for a girl?

@Mezhgan

It seems that khatti is the only person on here who was completely honest. Doing the housework does not take hours and hours and SAHMs and women who work from home have a bit more flexibility in their jobs than people with traditional jobs outside the home. I think that’s all that most people on here were trying to say about SAHMs. Loads of people on here made it sound as if being a SAHM or housewife was nothing but drudgery all 24 hours of the day.

Let me share the flip side, of the “early days”…My eldest was less than two years old when my twins were born, about 2 months premature. After extended stays in the NICU, and a couple of surgeries for one of the twins, I had 3 kids in diapers, nursing preemie twins, triple the laundry, weekly dr appts for the twins since they required special vaccinations for their lungs, plus the usual cooking and cleaning. I had no maid, nanny or live in house help. My in laws, despite living in the same city, did not pitch in to help at all. My mother helped out by taking my eldest when she could, but it was basically my husband and I doing it all on our own. I still cooked myself. There were days I didn’t even remember if I had showered, much less brushed my teeth or changed my clothes. The first 2 years are a complete blur. I then had 3 toddlers on my hand at the same time. Potty trained them all about the same time. Sleep trained them all about the same time. When my eldest started part time pre k, it gave me a few hours break a couple of days a week. Once he entered KG, it got easier. Then the twins started pre K and I had more time to get myself together. Once all 3 were in the same school for the whole day, I started working again (albeit from home).

So yea, when kids are under the age of 5, a SAHM has a harder time then when the kids are older. The older they get, the easier it gets. I have plans for myself and my career which are on the backburner for another 3 years or so. Once all 3 of my kids are in middle school/high school, I definitely plan to advance to a more traditional full time position outside of the house because honestly, there will be no reason for me to be at home.