What counts as 'impressive' for a girl?

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Re: What counts as ‘impressive’ for a girl?

@mzprincess88

You are right Mezhgan and, as I’ve noted earlier, I personally believe it stems from an internal inadequacy which they have iv def noticed it with some friends who are housewives. It’s like they have to continuously justify to everyone that they are changing the world.

And I hate hearing the whole “you get paid to work, we don’t get paid to do kitchen duty”. Well yes, but I CHOOSE not to laze around at home, I CHOOSE to go out and work hard and make a career so yes I do get paid. If I lounged around at home, no I wouldn’t expect a salary either.

This is not really fair…“laze around at home”..reallly?

@X2

What’s this bullcrap about SAHM and 113K and all. Fine even if we buy the numbers, then someone who has a career and also runs a home runs circles around those who are 100% SAHM. Once the kids are going to school, I am not sure there is a lot to do 8-9 hours a day every weekday…

Agree.

I’ve been on every end of this spectrum…Fulltime student while part time working the first year of my marriage…Full time job years 2-5…STAHM after having 3 kids in under 2 years from years 6 to around 10’ish…and now working from home (which sometimes is a full time load, other times part time depending on the season and my client load)…and yes, now that my kids are almost 9 & 11, I don’t have a whole lot to do around the house. Cleaning takes me 1-2 hrs tops, and cooking another maybe 1 hour. The rest of my day, if I don’t have any work appointments, are free to do as I please…usually taking continuing ed classes…I volunteer extensively at the kids school, and with 2 other charities which are near and dear to my heart, days are also spent running errands for my husband, gym etc. In the afternoon, I get busy again with the kids activities (tutoring, music class, quran classes, sports etc). As they grow older, it gets a little easier as they are now able to do much of their own chores and cleaning.

I CHOSE a career/line of work where I could be available for my kids 24/7. On friday for example..within 10 minutes of dropping them off at school, I got a phone call that the eldest puked all over the hallway…had to turn right back around to go get home lol. It’s nice not worrying about having to call in sick to work myself or scrambling to find somebody to watch him.

@Sara516

well…your national manager is an exception too…I mean…really? At least people are using their own families as examples…and you’re using someone who’s home life you have absolutely no idea about to make your point?

I don’t know about most of you people but everyone wants some kind of appreciation/love from** their spouse.** The outside world can say whatever, but only when your own spouse thinks you do nothing or are nothing…well that’s not great. You all seem to think that women want 24/7 ass kissing but that’s not it at all.

Ya know…good question. I hear about it all the time, women with young kids and how busy their life is. And I get it. but…what about those whose kids who are much older or in college? Never hear about what does SAHM with older kids do all day long while they’re in school? I think I have yet to hear about that, whether on GS or other social media.

Answered that above for you lol!

@mzprincess88

Breast milk can be placed in bottles nowadays. Our firm’s national manager has 4 kids, her husband stays at home while she works.

I know you don’t have any personal experience with this, but let me clue you in on something…it’s not like turning a faucet on and off. Breastfeeding and pumping is not easy WORK. Please don’t brush it off as no big deal. From the outside it may seem like your national manager does it with ease, but I guarantee you have no idea what she or any other women, either working or SAHM goes through to breastfeed and/or pump.