What counts as 'impressive' for a girl?

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Re: What counts as ‘impressive’ for a girl?

@nnabid

Thanks S02 I think you’re right.

Arzi, I guess it’s the loog I’m talking about. My in-laws make a big deal how lucky I am to have such an amazing husband who takes care of me. Yeah it’s true I’m very happy with him and grateful I’m not married to a wife-beater or something like that. But whatever I do for him is completely not acknowledged. It’s just treated as a given that I SHOULD be doing it. So it made me wonder what could I do which would be seen as something ‘extra’ in susraal’s eyes? And that made me think that actually women have it tough and there’s not much we can do which ‘counts’ so to speak.

I think S02 hit the nail on the head. It makes me think there’s a bit of an imbalance when it comes to what women can actually do to ‘impress’. I mean, if I was the breadwinner, I would happily take my husband out on a trip to make him and I happy. There was a time when I was earning more than he was, and I did buy more expensive gifts and things for him and treat him to dinner, but this was pre-marriage so it was never counted. Now I’m not working, and it’s like nothing I do is acknowledged.

OP, as long as your husband appreciates what ever you do for him,all is good.
you actually are doing it for him and not for your in-laws. why would they appreciate and applaud you for things that you are doing for your husband, your home and for your relationship??
do you appreciate your MIL for things she must have done and must still be doing for her family, her children, your children etc? if you do the n i can understand the need to be reciprocated by her in the same way but if you also don’t appreciate her for these things then don’t complain.