What counts as 'impressive' for a girl?

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Re: What counts as ‘impressive’ for a girl?

@mzprincess88

Reha I don’t think you are understanding. It’s not about the fact that women do or don’t work outside the home. It’s the general expectation that the majority of pakistani SAM that I have come across have this need to constantly feel they should be applauded for doing their duty the same way their husbands do their duties.

Um, no. I don’t think YOU are understanding. I didn’t ask for applause for doing my day to day duties, nor do I applaud my husband for doing his. Actually, what I was saying was it’s very easy for working men to gain ‘extra points’ because essentially, they are the breadwinners. So if he wants to buy me a present, or take me on a holiday, he can do that because he has the money. And when he does that people oooh and ahhh. My original question was NOT: why don’t I get credit for what I do? It was actually: what can I do outside of the sphere of my expected duties that would get oohs and ahhs?

I never expect to get regular appreciation from hubby for doing what I have chosen to do i.e. not work. But because we love each other, I show him appreciation for working hard, and he does the same for me too. You have completely missed my point and are going off on a rant about how stay at home mums should quietly get on with what they’re supposed to be doing.