What counts as 'impressive' for a girl?

[Reha]

Re: What counts as ‘impressive’ for a girl?

@mzprincess88

Well if women don’t want to stay home then they should focus on going to uni, obtaining degrees and developing themselves in their careers. Maybe then they WOULD earn more than their husbands and could be the breadwinners (if they aren’t happy in their roles at home). If goris can do it, why can’t pakistani women? It is because pakistani women, generally, are lazier. As stated, women at my work (a demanding profession) work full time, have kids and do the house stuff and you don’t hear a peep from them.

Pakistani women nowadays are not jahil…I cannot say for anyone in Pak because its been too long since I’ve been but here…the standard is having higher education. A higher education does not always guarantee a larger paycheck. A good job but not a high paying job where you’re hitting six figures.

@mzprincess88

Reha I don’t think you are understanding. It’s not about the fact that women do or don’t work outside the home. It’s the general expectation that the majority of pakistani SAM that I have come across have this need to constantly feel they should be applauded for doing their duty the same way their husbands do their duties.

I don’t think that is asking for too much at all…no way. Women choose to stay home, sure. But not by only their own choices…there’s a better chance of husband bringing in a better salary so its decided that way. Finances come first. A woman becomes a voluntary casualty and takes a step back so she can focus on her children and family.

Appreciation helps us stay positive and encouraging. There’s nothing wrong with it. If a woman looks like she needs it, its probably because she does and also because she’s tired of being looked at like “well, what’s the big deal? isn’t this your job?”