What counts as 'impressive' for a girl?

[bella88]

Re: What counts as ‘impressive’ for a girl?

@nnabid

Thanks S02 I think you’re right.

Arzi, I guess it’s the loog I’m talking about. My in-laws make a big deal how lucky I am to have such an amazing husband who takes care of me. Yeah it’s true I’m very happy with him and grateful I’m not married to a wife-beater or something like that. But whatever I do for him is completely not acknowledged. It’s just treated as a given that I SHOULD be doing it. So it made me wonder what could I do which would be seen as something ‘extra’ in susraal’s eyes? And that made me think that actually women have it tough and there’s not much we can do which ‘counts’ so to speak.

I think S02 hit the nail on the head. It makes me think there’s a bit of an imbalance when it comes to what women can actually do to ‘impress’. I mean, if I was the breadwinner, I would happily take my husband out on a trip to make him and I happy. There was a time when I was earning more than he was, and I did buy more expensive gifts and things for him and treat him to dinner, but this was pre-marriage so it was never counted. Now I’m not working, and it’s like nothing I do is acknowledged.

you can be the most perfect wife, but you still wont be good enough in your susraals eyes. thats just how it is for the most part. one of my friend is a doctor and she works so hard, keeps everything in her home perfect but her saas still thinks how lucky she is to be married to her son, who earns way less than her and doesn’t even help her out much in the home! don’t expect any applause from susraal, just be happy with your husband and kids. i dont have children yet, im a housewife but even that is alot of work, cooking, cleaning, so i can’t imagine how hard it would be to have children and take care of the house. if your husband is taking you out on a trip, thats great. husbands should take care of their wives as the wife is taking care of his home and children.