What counts as 'impressive' for a girl?

[Reha]

Re: What counts as ‘impressive’ for a girl?

@rabia3983

WOW Reha, so you can use your sister’s examples, your friends example to make up your opinion about things, but no one else can.

The example where you used your working friend returning to work 3 months after delivery IS AMAZING, i had to do the same thing. I could afford a daycare but asked my mother to take care of the LO. Once i got home i didn’t let my mother do anything else…stayed up late if i had to with the baby and didn’t let my mother take care of the LO during the night…since that was the only time i got with the baby. MY friends who are SAHM are always asking me how do i do so much. They don’t even get a chance to cook a meal most of the time. BUT do have time for yoga, shopping etc.

I am no saying that they have it easier, but they sure don’t have it as hard as working moms. And it really seems like your opinion is it…so i won’t argue with you since its useless.

No, they don’t have it easier and neither do you. Please stop comparing the two and pretending as if there’s any reason to put yourself on a pedestal if you think no one else deserves recognition. The things you did when you came home from work…SAHM moms do the same…they also stay up late with their children. The work your mom did to take care of your child, a SAHM does herself.

It seems as if the general attitude is “poor me” for the working women but when a SAHM says “poor me”, you want to shout foul. If you think they women who are home have it easy because they’re home…they can say the same for you. You have it easier because you have someone to help you. If you believe a mother who is home with her kids is doing nothing amazing - then by default neither are you.

You can have all the double standards you want but at least be blunt about them.

@rabia3983

Again your opinion, but my MIL loves and says wah-wah to anything i do thats wah worthy. I understand thats very rare, but not impossible.

I also think its wrong to give advice such as your regarding the inlaws…not parents. OP never mentioned her inlaws being evil, or MIL being evil. WHY not treat them like your parents and maybe they will treat you like a daughter. Again, my own expereince has shown me this.
Secondly, I do things for my FIL, MIL, SILs and in return my husband is happy with me. Why wouldn’t a levelheaded son be happy that his wife is doing something nice for family.

Hunh?

I never mentioned her in-laws are evil either so kindly stop making things up. I never said not to treat them well or do good for them. In fact, its ridiculous in my opinion to expect wah wah…as if you need that in order to function healthily with in-laws.

What I said is - stop expecting a pat on the back or a cookie every single time you do something nice because its not for them you do it…you do these things to make your SO happy.

This post of your was pointless.