Hello everyone!
I am in a confusion for last 4-5 days.
I met a guy through a mutual friend 3 months ago. I had met him just once. When our friendship started, we both kept sending messages to each other on facebook & whatsapp throughout every day. Then I saw like, it was becoming more which may result into too much of an attachment, like, i was scared i may develop feelings for him more than a friend but i don’t believe in this concept of having boyfriend-girlfriend relationship or any love relationship. And he would keep on insisting that we both should meet for coffee, lunch, etc but every time i would decline, saying i wasn’t comfortable with all that. As he had told me many times he believes in having a relationship with a girl whom he could meet frequently, as he would give example that, with his ex girlfriend, he used to meet her like at least 2-3 times in a week. So i told him many times like, let’s both keep this friendship on a casual level only, like, we should stop exchanging messages this way, as i told him frankly that, i was scared i might fall for him 
. And every time he would tell me that i shouldn’t be scared of the future as even if that happened, he was a good catch, etc. And many times he told me that, if i had tried leaving him, he would come to my office, he would never leave me, etc. and even 2-3 times he confessed his love indirectly by telling me that he loved me and he really liked me, blah blah blah. And he was like, he wouldn’t even mind proceeding things further as he liked the way iam, the way iam closer to religion & he said so he thought i could bring changes in him and make him like that as well, etc.
But, on friday, out of nowhere, he started telling in a joking tone that, his sister had told him that his mom has found someone for him. and he continued and he started telling me that, i should better find someone else better for myself. and he was like, since i don’t even like meetings, etc, so he doesn’t understand how could we get to know each other better & he doesn’t believe in having any such relationship where he can’t meet the girl. Also, he was like, his life is a mess and he cares for me so much that he doesn’t want to drag me in his mess . I was shocked but I agreed to it. and i told him that better we finish off this friendship as iam not comfortable being friends with him. so we agreed.
We both hadn’t committed anything to each other. we just knew we had more than friends feelings for each other though he did confess his love on few occasions.
So, after friday, he contacted me yesterday, asking if i was okay. So i asked him that, what mess was he talking about? i said it might be some tricks of him to get rid of me. But he was like, if it was in his hands, he would never want to lose me, blah blah blah. He was like, his life is a great mess and he cares for me so much that’s why he wants me to be away from his mess :S. I told him if he swears by Allah, then i would believe him and he did swear but decline to tell me the exact thing as he said he cannot say it :S.
Now, iam just confused. What you people conclude? What could be reason for sudden change in his behaviour? Perhaps was he genuine & there’s something really messy going on in his life? or perhaps his mom had found him someone and he wanted to get rid of me? :S
iam just clueless and literary shocked for such a change in behaviour all of sudden :(.
