“Cheating is the Violation of Exclusivity, Physical and Emotional that Binds Those in a Committed Relationship.
There is some controversy as to that which constitutes “cheating” in a marriage or other committed relationship.”
Short of actual physical sexual content, what is “cheating”? A husband’s having lunch with another woman may not be cheating, but spending much time with the “other woman” and sharing intimate experiences and memories may very well be. It depends.
So, does having a sexual relationship outside of the marriage constitute “cheating”? That’s easy; it does.
The hard part is when the outside relationship is of a non-physical intimacy. Is that “cheating”? It may very well be.
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Any relationship is based on Trust ...if its to survive.....
therefore any breach of that trust does constitute "cheating"........
if one does share a non-physical intimacy with someone other than their significant other and feels the need to hide that then yes it does constitute cheating .
Any relationship is based on Trust ...if its to survive.....
therefore any breach of that trust does constitute "cheating"........
if one does share a non-physical intimacy with someone other than their significant other and feels the need to hide that then yes it does constitute cheating .
Good point. But everyone has different interpretation of trust, what's trust for me can be cheating for you, how can this be generalized ?
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Short of any sort of physical contact/intimacy, a real clear-cut answer is not possible. Everyone has a different definition and what constitutes (emotional) cheating depends only on the two individuals involved. Basically the two involved have to come to an understanding and agreement, if there is trust and respect for each other (two fundamentals of any relatinship), it shouldn't be an issue.
So in shrot to answer your Q: HELL YES non-physical intimacy is cheating.
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I saw this thread coming a hundred miles away...
To answer your question:
If you feel the least bit of shame admitting it openly to your spouse or hesitation sharing it, there is something wrong. You may not have cheated yet, but you're on your way there.
If my husband is giving his affection, love, respect (in a romantic sense) to some other woman...I consider it cheating...cheating me of what is rightfully mine.
And Ill tell you one more thing, for a girl like me...having a more emotional connection with my spouse is extremely important. A physical relationship is just that, physical. It can be had with anyone, anytime. But love cant be with anyone, anytime. And if he loves someone else...then he has got to go.
If you feel the least bit of shame admitting it openly to your spouse or hesitation sharing it, there is something wrong. You may not have cheated yet, but you're on your way there.
If my husband is giving his affection, love, respect (in a romantic sense) to some other woman...I consider it cheating...cheating me of what is rightfully mine.
And Ill tell you one more thing, for a girl like me...having a more emotional connection with my spouse is extremely important. A physical relationship is just that, physical. It can be had with anyone, anytime. But love cant be with anyone, anytime. And if he loves someone else...then he has got to go.
I think Bon's response is good....
Paki, If want you to criticize other's responses, it means that you have an opinion about what "cheating" is. WHy don't you tell us what you think? what would it take for YOU to consider your wife is cheating ?
I would also like to add....If you wouldn't like your spouse doing the same thing to you, then it's cheating or getting there somewhere close....if you need to hide a relationship with a person of the opposite sex, then it's definetly getting close to cheating.
Short of any sort of physical contact/intimacy, a real clear-cut answer is not possible. Everyone has a different definition and what constitutes (emotional) cheating depends only on the two individuals involved. Basically the two involved have to come to an understanding and agreement, if there is trust and respect for each other (two fundamentals of any relatinship), it shouldn't be an issue.
I think Bon's response is good....
Paki, If want you to criticize other's responses, it means that you have an opinion about what "cheating" is. WHy don't you tell us what you think? what would it take for YOU to consider your wife is cheating ?
I would also like to add....If you wouldn't like your spouse doing the same thing to you, then it's cheating or getting there somewhere close....if you need to hide a relationship with a person of the opposite sex, then it's definetly getting close to cheating.
Well I agree with the article (mostly) that's why I quoted the article..duh...
So, does having a sexual relationship outside of the marriage constitute "cheating"? That's easy; it does.
The hard part is when the outside relationship is of a non-physical intimacy. Is that "cheating"? It may very well be.
Non-physical intimacy includes fantasizing, so based on your statement above ? fantasizing is cheating too ?
Also physical intimacy in dreams will also be cheating for you ?
I personally don't take either as such, but like i said earlier, it's up to every individual to determine what they are and not comfortable with. If a couple can reach an agreement as to what exactly makes up cheating iwht non-ph intimacy.. who are we to judge?
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Some people think that their other half simply deeply kissing or being out for a candlelit intimate dinner is worse than a one night stand as it suggests they're emotionally close and may have a 'bond' and/or feelings for each other. Hmmmm makes me think of that old saying that prostitutes don't kiss on the lips as it's 'too intimate' - dunno if it's true tho....
Its not emotional, its practical. Cheating of the heart is the worst kind...like a faceless enemy you cant even fight. Its worse then a one night stand. Our husband is there but not really there...who wants that kind of a relationship? Might as well get a room mate.