What Badabing Wants wants in a Future Wife

[Sehrysh]

Okay, let’s work through your list - there may be a woman out there for you!

@badabing

Prenup.

**Done! But it goes both ways so her financial assets are protected from you as well.
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Woman prepared to work 30+ year career and contribute financially to household (equality and all that)

**Is it okay if she is a trust fund baby or hits the lottery? You said you’re planning on living off your investments later - so active career seems to be unnecessary.
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Agreement that if her libido decreases (allowances made for after child birth), she will be kool with me getting a second wife (nikkah only). Same with me if I get ED and can’t cure it, I will let her go.

**Fair enough - everyone is entitled to companionship, if either party (even because of illness cannot meet the needs of the other - then going their own way might be fair.
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Kids must go to boarding school.

**So you’re looking for someone who’s going to ruin her figure to birth your child, but she really won’t be spending much time with them. You know, she’ll probably be emotionally cold if she can give up her kids. Are you okay with a woman who’s emotionally frozen?
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Understanding that if she leaves Islam - we’re done, don’t want no agnostic as a wife.

**Makes sense.
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I don’t trust anyone with my emotions except my parents and siblings, so she won’t have to worry about any of that sissy stuff.

**Means she’ll have an emotionless marriage - no love or devotion from her. Remind me, why is she getting married again? Cause its not for the money or the kids…

**That’s pretty much my list.

She can list her needs and I will comply - but I will not be a beta.

I’m off to get a coffee, tata!

@badabing

I’m also going to need a paternity test after the birth of each kid.

**Does that mean you need to have an ankle monitor everytime you sleep away from home? Cause you know, she’s got no other way of knowing what you’ve been up to?
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[BruceWayne]

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@Sehrysh

Okay, let's work through your list - there may be a woman out there for you!

*Does that mean you need to have an ankle monitor everytime you sleep away from home? Cause you know, she's got no other way of knowing what you've been up to? *

ankle monitors are pretty old and ineffective, he could implant his wife with a microchip in her blood stream.

[badabing]

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@Sehrysh

Okay, let's work through your list - there may be a woman out there for you!

*Does that mean you need to have an ankle monitor everytime you sleep away from home? Cause you know, she's got no other way of knowing what you've been up to? *

Boarding school toughens a kid up for the real world, plus you get to make a lot of kool connections and lifelong friends from all over the world.

Trusting someone with my emotions means exposing myself to risk. I make split second risk vs reward calculation at work everyday, with my gut telling me yay or nay. My gut tells me not to expose myself to this level of risk in relation to my emotions. I will meet all her emotional needs, but she doesn't have to worry about my emotional needs.

Paternity tests, I can always do in secret I suppose, so I can compromise on that point.

[badabing]

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@BruceWayne

ankle monitors are pretty old and ineffective, he could implant his wife with a microchip in her blood stream.

Will look into that.

[Aaze]

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@badabing

Boarding school toughens a kid up for the real world, plus you get to make a lot of kool connections and lifelong friends from all over the world.
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Trusting someone with my emotions means exposing myself to risk. I make split second risk vs reward calculation at work everyday, with my gut telling me yay or nay. My gut tells me not to expose myself to this level of risk in relation to my emotions. I will meet all her emotional needs, but she doesn’t have to worry about my emotional needs.

Paternity tests, I can always do in secret I suppose, so I can compromise on that point.**

How are you going to meet her emotional needs, when you’re not ready to expose yourself? And she shouldn’t worry about your emotional needs? And paternity test after each kid? Do you even know the ABC of marriage?

You know you sound like that kid whose amma should have taken off her chappal and lagao him 2-3 phir dimagh theek ho jata.

Sorry but it is what it is. Bizzare that’s what this is

[badabing]

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@Aaze

How are you going to meet her emotional needs, when you’re not ready to expose yourself? And she shouldn’t worry about your emotional needs? And paternity test after each kid? Do you even know the ABC of marriage?

You know you sound like that kid whose amma should have taken off her chappal and lagao him 2-3 phir dimagh theek ho jata.

Sorry but it is what it is. Bizzare that’s what this is

Trust me, can be done, I think. Reading return of Kings opened my eyes as to how. I basically will give the impression my needs are being met, without really investing any emotions, acting so to speak. So if the shyte does hit the fan, I won’t take years to recover.

As far as my Amma goes, she did her best, bless her. I’m just an acquired taste, like marmite!

[Paheli00]

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@badabing

Boarding school toughens a kid up for the real world, plus you get to make a lot of kool connections and lifelong friends from all over the world.

Did you go to a boarding school?

[badabing]

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@Paheli00

Did you go to a boarding school?

Why?

[Aaze]

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@badabing

Trust me, can be done, I think. Reading return of Kings opened my eyes as to how. I basically will give the impression my needs are being met, without really investing any emotions, acting so to speak. So if the shyte does hit the fan, I won’t take years to recover.

As far as my Amma goes, she did her best, bless her. I’m just an acquired taste, like marmite!

You’re basically going to do acting for the rest of your life, that’s your brilliant plan?

Do you realize how sad that sounds?

Here’s a friendly advice; Marriage is not for you and if by chance you do find a girl, whom you won’t love obviously, then please seek some professional help before you marry her.

[Sehrysh]

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@Aaze

You’re basically going to do acting for the rest of your life, that’s your brilliant plan?

Do you realize how sad that sounds?

Here’s a friendly advice; Marriage is not for you and if by chance you do find a girl, whom you won’t love obviously, then please seek some professional help before you marry her instead of destroying her.

@Aaze, I think marriage COULD be for him. But only so long as he’s willing to marry an emotionally barren woman, and there are some out there. His preferences are his own, but he needs to be willing to accept as much (or in this case, as little) in return for what he’s offering.

[badabing]

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@Aaze

You’re basically going to do acting for the rest of your life, that’s your brilliant plan?

Do you realize how sad that sounds?

Here’s a friendly advice; Marriage is not for you and if by chance you do find a girl, whom you won’t love obviously, then please seek some professional help before you marry her.

The red pill says I need to protect myself both emotionally and financially during marriage due to the scourge of no fault divorce in the West, so that’s what I intend to do.

[Aaze]

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@Sehrysh

@Aaze, I think marriage COULD be for him. But only so long as he’s willing to marry an emotionally barren woman, and there are some out there. His preferences are his own, but he needs to be willing to accept as much (or in this case, as little) in return for what he’s offering.

Yes that could work, but then I just want to know - Why marry at all? I mean with all this “must not expose myself”-talk.. why take the risk?

[winterfireflies]

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Badabing will be so cute when he falls in love.

[badabing]

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@Sehrysh

@Aaze, I think marriage COULD be for him. But only so long as he’s willing to marry an emotionally barren woman, and there are some out there. His preferences are his own, but he needs to be willing to accept as much (or in this case, as little) in return for what he’s offering.

Without marriage I can’t have kids, not halal way anyway. Only I will know what is going on, from the outside in, everything will look pretty normal, I hope.

[Sehrysh]

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@badabing

Without marriage I can't have kids, not halal way anyway. Only I will know what is going on, from the outside in, everything will look pretty normal, I hope.

See, I can respect your right to have the preferences in a partner that you've mentioned. But what seems wrong to me, is your expecting your partner to be more vested in you than you are in her. You've been honest about all your preferences/requirements - why act/pretend about the emotional connection and why expect more from her than you're willing to offer?

[badabing]

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@Aaze

Yes that could work, but then I just want to know - Why marry at all? I mean with all this "must not expose myself"-talk.. why take the risk?

I'm probably 3-4 years out from marriage, so I got a bit of time to work on perfecting my game plan. I'm sure that I'll compromise on an issue or two along the way.

[Aaze]

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@badabing

The red pill says I need to protect myself both emotionally and financially during marriage due to the scourge of no fault divorce in the West, so that’s what I intend to do.

@badabing

Without marriage I can’t have kids, not halal way anyway. Only I will know what is going on, from the outside in, everything will look pretty normal, I hope.

Oh lord, and this is how bizzarre land looks like

I really hope you stick around until you get married. This is going to be so much fun..

[badabing]

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@Sehrysh

See, I can respect your right to have the preferences in a partner that you've mentioned. But what seems wrong to me, is your expecting your partner to be more vested in you than you are in her. You've been honest about all your preferences/requirements - why act/pretend about the emotional connection and why expect more from her than you're willing to offer?

Because I've seen one of my oldest childhood paki friends be both emotionally and financially invested in a so called "sharif" brit paki girl - only to have her cuckold him and give birth to another man's child and take their first kid (his kid) away - who he gets to see every other weekend. That's why. Protect yourselves at all times!

[Paheli00]

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@badabing

Why?

Because:

1) If you attended boarding school, then that explains why you see marriage/family the way you do.

2) If you did NOT attend boarding school, then what makes you think that's what's needed to toughen up a kid for the real world? Did your own non-boarding school upbringing not prepare you for the real world and give you a chance to make connections?

[badabing]

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@Paheli00

Because:

1) If you attended boarding school, then that explains why you see marriage/family the way you do.

2) If you did NOT attend boarding school, then what makes you think that's what's needed to toughen up a kid for the real world? Did your own non-boarding school upbringing not prepare you for the real world and give you a chance to make connections?

The best UK schools are all boarding schools. That's why.