Re: What are your thoughts on polygamous marriage/being a co-wife?
I’m not comparing whats happening in Pakistan to what Islam says or doesn’t say. I’m merely stating ground realities for most women in polygamous relationships in Pakistan. Its not only the ground realities in villages, but also in towns.
No one here seems to be willing to be part of polygamous relationships themselves, but they are fine with it, if its imposed on unfortunate women in Pakistan, as long as there is “consent”. In most cases there is no consent, because the first wife will have to choose between the lesser of two evils. Why wish upon others, which people are not willing to undergo themselves?
Don’t see why we preach how it’s supposed to be implemented in theory, when we know that in practice it’s (mostly) forced on women in Pakistan. Better to fight this social ill, than condone it. The practice is extremely unfair on women.
I tend to stick to whats actually ocurring, rather than what should be occurring if we did this or if we did that. As a side note, not that it’s relevant in this discussion, religious rules and regulations will always be prone to abuse, because there will never be consensus among the followers of the religion on how the rule is supposed to be implemented. Some will say A, others will say B, as is even evident in this thread. 
PS, no need to mention Paindoo villages in particular, that was hurtful. 