I’m sure most men would think ‘its great’ but I need more in depth answers. Girls - would you do it? Why or why not? Men - if you had the chance to take a 2nd wife would you? For what reasons?
Do you think it would work? What are your thoughts on people who are in polygamous marriages? Who are the candidates who should approach such a marriage? Is it that common amongst pakistanis?
Ooh and how about parents - have any of your fathers taken a 2nd wife, what would your reaction be to it if they did?!
If the second marriage is not hidden from the first wife, and she has the option to leave her husband or share him with the second wife, then arrangement is fair
If first wife has freedom to keep living with him or leave him, then it’s fair. Many times, is not easy for first wife to leave her hubby, because of social pressures and even threats from the hubby.
Theorist, same applies if we switch the gender. If wife wants second hubby, come and tell the first hubby. He hs the choice to accept the arrangement, or leave his wife. Is that fair now?
Re: What are your thoughts on polygamous marriage/being a co-wife?
Sure. Spouses have the choice to leave each other anyway. Women can’t take second husbands, can they? Take this up with Muslim brothers and sisters who believe it’s haram for women yet completely reasonable and halal for men. You know they are going to come up with a million ways to justify this. To me, it’s fair if both have same options available to them.
Let’s talk about it without bringing any religion. I said it earlier that polygamy has nothing to do with Islam. It was a cultural thing in Arab (in fact a need in those days - but more on that, later). If anything, Islam put a lid on polygamy by restricting it to four wives at a time. People used to have dozens of wives before that.
Re: What are your thoughts on polygamous marriage/being a co-wife?
‘Islam says, Islam says…’ thats usually the argument I hear over on Islamic forums. lol they won’t even try to think outside the box, if Islam said then they won’t even question it
Re: What are your thoughts on polygamous marriage/being a co-wife?
Well, let’s put an even bigger and airtight lid on it again and make it illegal! Or make it legal for women too. You can’t really talk about this without bringing religion into it. Multiple marriages aren’t allowed by most land constitutions anyway. Baat hi khatam hogai phir to.
Re: What are your thoughts on polygamous marriage/being a co-wife?
HELL to the NO will I ever be okay with my (future) hubby EVER getting a second wife while he is actively married to me. if he wants another woman, he would have to leave me first, then he can do whatever he wants.
