I just don't like the day because there shouldn't be one specific day where you do something special for your SO and then forget about them for the rest of the year... Also the expectation part is pressure enough. That being said, me disliking the day is my opinion, just like I don't hate on anyone who loves the day and goes all out. Different strokes, for different folks.
But why would you assume that that's what happens? like TLK said....if someone ignores their SO throughout the year, that person wont be around next valentines day.
Its not you personally, I just find it really weird when single girls (it's always single girls..never single guys) posting hateful msgs on social media about V-day. All couples go through ups and downs, it doesn't make you a
Someone being an ogre on a holiday or any day thats important to their SO (anniversary, b-day, etc)....thats a symptom of a deeper issue with the couple. and dare I say, I extend this to Mothers/Fathers day as well.
But why would you assume that that's what happens? like TLK said....if someone ignores their SO throughout the year, that person wont be around next valentines day.
Its not you personally, I just find it really weird when single girls (it's always single girls..never single guys) posting hateful msgs on social media about V-day. All couples go through ups and downs, it doesn't make you a
Someone being an ogre on a holiday or any day thats important to their SO (anniversary, b-day, etc)....thats a symptom of a deeper issue with the couple. and dare I say, I extend this to Mothers/Fathers day as well.
You'd be surprised how many people stick around in relationships despite being ignored and treated badly 364 days of the year and this one day makes up for that.
I think more the emotional reaction - girls care about this day than guys. For guys its just another day where if they're single, they're single. For single girls it's just another way to rub in their face how they are single and social media exacerbates it.
The materialistic aspect of the entire day bothers me, the expectation that THIS is the day you're supposed to do something over the top with roses and chocolate and teddy bears. I can't tell you how many times I've seen guys scrambling after work to buy something, anything because it's Valentine's Day - No thought or anything but just because they needed SOMETHING to give. It's just funny to me. Probably the same reason I dislike Pandora... again no thought, it's just easy.
But like I said, I've never been into V-Day nor has my fiance - single or taken and we find it funny that that's the day we chose to get legally and religiously married on.
^ Materialism ruins anything if you make that the leading qualifier of any occasion, let alone V day. I have problem with how our weddings are turning into a big giant entertainment show with choreographed dances, themes, phot shootouts, and expensive costumes. Does that mean that concept of wedding should be undermined? No. How about our Eids, Kid’s first birthdays, anniversaries, Aameens, even Milads and Kahtamul Quran get-togethers - you name it and every occasion in our culture screams materialism.
My take is that instead of throwing money at everything and turn it into a big circus, try to bring back the real emotions behind all these occasions. First and foremost, people should avoid the temptation of posting updates on FB. I don’t need to know what your hubby, wife, GF, Fiancé did for you on the V-day. I don’t care how many roses you found next to your pillow, or which fancy restaurant he took you by surprise. Second, at personal level be creative and genuine. Roses and chocolates are so 1990. Do something that maybe small but appear thoughtful. Maybe an extra few minutes of cuddle in the morning, or cooking dinner together that night, or taking a day off if it’s a working day and just spending time with each other.
But then again, I totally respect your opinion. If you don’t like the concept of V-day, that is awesome. That means you are being genuine and not trying to follow the mainstream.
I have booked a penthouse in Bhurban. It's got a huge double bed in one room. This time of the year it's very cold there so in the warm bedroom and cozy bed, it would nice to sleep off for good 18-20hrs and no one to disturb.
Will decorate the bathroom mirror with paper heart around his side of the sink. Making his favorite breakfast (homemade parathas). Will decorate his car with hearts. Getting him basketball tickets to go to a game. Will make a coupon book for him to cash in for me to do his part of the household chores along with a jar of reasons why I love him.
He will probably take me out for dinner.
Still trying to plan something between breakfast and dinner... if the weather permits, maybe something outdoors. He doesn't have a favorite meal so I am very confused what to cook for lunch.
I just don't like the day because there shouldn't be one specific day where you do something special for your SO and then forget about them for the rest of the year... Also the expectation part is pressure enough. That being said, me disliking the day is my opinion, just like I don't hate on anyone who loves the day and goes all out. Different strokes, for different folks.
I hear this a lot about all holidays actually...Mothers Day, Fathers Day, Valentines Day, etc etc etc.
Normal couples try to do things for one another and take care of each other of course...they also do special things once in a while. But in day to day life when work, home, kids and things in general keep you super busy...its really nice to take a break and just be with each other. You're not married yet or I guess in that phase so this may seem blah to you but to others...its a small vacation and well deserved too!
My anniversary is V-Day weekend so its a big deal for me...but even it wasn't...its fun. When I was single, I was annoyed by it sometimes and I would always do something fun that day. But now, its a much needed breather. :)
Will decorate the bathroom mirror with paper heart around his side of the sink. Making his favorite breakfast (homemade parathas). Will decorate his car with hearts. Getting him basketball tickets to go to a game. Will make a coupon book for him to cash in for me to do his part of the household chores along with a jar of reasons why I love him.
He will probably take me out for dinner.
Still trying to plan something between breakfast and dinner... if the weather permits, maybe something outdoors. He doesn't have a favorite meal so I am very confused what to cook for lunch.
Why did he say, we? Did you guys decide it together?
But if he doesn't want to, then you dint have to. It's a mutual thing, so if one partner is not willing then there is no need for the other
He tends to say we after making up his mind on his own. He said the same thing about birthdays that we will no longer celebrate them but when I didn't get him a present, he complained.
I think I will still do it because I want to make him feel special.
how did you celebrate before?
I have done similar stuff in the past like buying him chocolates, writing love letters, making cards, baking cake in the shape of a heart, breakfast in bed, making 5-7 different items for breakfast, cooking his favorite food, planning a day out, etc.
He usually gets me a rose and takes me out for dinner. He has bought me teddy bears and chocolates in the past too. However, now he says we don't keep teddy bears in the house. He is obviously not the romantic in this relationship.