Yup! This is true…when a couple decides to have children guess who will be the sole bread-winner in the house? The man. The entire burden falls on his shoulders while his wife prepares for another little member of the family. This is not an easy expense to bear in US at least. Family planning is essential for couples raising children in the west and even east…doesnt matter.
Numb, no doubt couples who dont have a lot **have **to sacrifice quite a bit when they have kids. BUT does that make it right? Does that mean there is no better way? Absolutely not. Our parents’ era was different and ours is different. No matter what you say, you will agree deep down we are living in a different world with different needs and demands.
Another thing you should take into consideration which CA mentions above…what if (God forbid) a tragedy strikes the family? Allahu Alim doesnt work when the electric company calls before they disconnect your power. The woman needs to be capable of at least a decent salary until husband gets on his feet or they figure out a back-up plan. Medical insurance for the kids?
We live in a society that demands these different roles of the female and we are totally up to the challenge. However, the least you guys could do is acknowledge our desire to do the right thing…not only for us…but for you too. We are not selfish at all…we are being selfless by standing right next to you and helping you whenever you need it, in whatever form you need it.
The women who stay home and take care of their children have to sacrifice their desire to be financially independant and carefree despite being educated and more than capable. The woman who leave the house sacrifice their desire to be home and hang on every little thing their tiny one does so they dont miss a precious second. My very own friend is a prime example. She worked SO hard to buld her career before she got married and then walked away from prime opportunties to have children because they decided it was the right time.
This woman is today’s woman Numb…she has a lot of hard and conflicting choices facing her. She has her traditional role to fill and modern day demands. Maybe this is the woman you should consider when you ask questions about children.