what are the chances that your BIL fancies you?

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maybe he just likes the way you are. Respects you and has high respect for you.... cus u r his bhabhi and maybe he hopes to find someone like u? It doesnt quite mean he fancies you... just thinks ur great.

I wouldnt let these thoughts occupy you too much... nadz, personally, i think u need to get urself busy with something..

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If someone likes you that doesn't mean that he likes you in that sense only !!! Man can admire a man for some quality and we women can also admire any woman for some quality.

You have just got married just try to think about your hubby ONLY what does he think , what he likes , what he doesn't like and how you both can make a better life for yourselves. Don't think too much about your inlaws and esp your BILs. Someone in previous posts has rightly said that these are very delicate relationships , think of him as a brother ONLY and keep your mind free from such thoughts. If possible you can go for a 2nd honey moon with your hubby that will keep your mind off from such thoughts.

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also, if u get the slightest notion that he may be developing feelings of that sort... then cut the communication down a bit. Although, i still think and agree with diamond, that a guy can admire you and like you for other reasons... not just sexual ones

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disclaimer: this is very harsh but SOMEONE has to make it stop.

i really truly hope that your hubby either doesn't know how to use the internet or simply never has access to any computer you've been on. if he ever notices u on this site, n figures out his wife is Nadz (which should be pretty easy) u'd be soooo screwed. i'm not joking. n u'd probably deserve it for having such haraam thoughts in your head abt your own BIL who hasn't even made a move but u r literally waiting for it!!!!!

i mean complaining abt ur MIL for noo reason was one thing but this is taking it too far. i'm sorry if i've hurt ur feelings n u can hate me forever if thats what makes u happy but please, try to focus on creating a good, healthy relationship with ur new hubby n in laws. everything will get harder as time passes so atleast make some effort now while they r still treating u as the "new dulhan".

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Tell your FIL and your MIL to find you a NIL and take a CHIL PIL.

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Nadz you sound like such a rolla ruppa! hav u been watching too many starplus dramaz lately?

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Nadz, this is not unheard of, we have friends who have been married for over 2 years yet BIL is still so close to her, her hubby doesnt seem to mind?!

Me and hubby thought it bizaar how they would share a plate (heellllooo), and even walk hand in hand (!!!!!!!!!) all in front of hubby.

Now that she is pregnant, BIL seems to be taking more care of her than her hubby, but like i said they all seem to be more than happy with each other (all from Pak BTW)

We still think its weird

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But I feel that if there is a slight notion that he may have developed feelings for her, then is already too late. I mean, effectively, that is the end of a normal BIL relationship, because even if you cut down communication, there will always remain an air of uneasiness between them. There really is no turning back in such a relationship.
Best to keep a fair distance right from the start, be it a BIL, cousin, or some other male.

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^its only uneasy if the bhabhi might have feelings for the BIL too. If she detects it early... snubs it off, and minimises the communication... things will be arrite.

Maybe the BIL needs to interact with other females. Possibly, the bhabhi is the only female he has interacted with outside of his own immediate family

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to be fair to nadz... as she explained already, she was referring to another thread. Not to herself

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careful Nads, i know some Bhabi and BIL fancied each other when his brother was engaged not even married..... they were so much into it that girl was pregnant before she was married to the brother. i know this is gross but that happens in this wild world. and yes they were cousins as well.

but at the end it all depends on the Bhabi as men are branded are to be predators! so keep you distance :)

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GROSS AND GROSSER.

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^ ewwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwww

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In alot of desi families.. mainly Pakistan, bhabis and devars share a special relationship. In my family, a bhabi is considered a motherly figure or like an older sister.. and Im sure it's like that in many, many families. It's a usual thing for BILs to take care of their bhabis and joke around.. it's all about how you perceive it. Holding hands, sharing plates is a bit too much but if he's just being friendly with you then there's no need to take it the wrong way. If you can't even be normal with your BIL and feel like he's hitting on you then you probably think every man fancies you.

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You should think twice before being close friends with your BIL. He isnt your brother, husband or father. He is at the end of the day a man and fully capable of falling in love with another woman that is not his sister or mother.
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I agree with that, yes his is your husband's brother and yes thats very special, but at the end of the day he is still not your mahrem so you should maintain a level of modesty with him. Im not saying treat him like any stranger on the street, but just be careful regarding how "close" you let your relationship get
The holding hands and eating from same plate is really really strange!! Im surprised her husband is ok with that..wonder what will happen when the BIL gets married..

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hey

well ok guys, i say this because we used to get along well and talk alot well before my marriage, last time i saw him was 8 yrs ago, when he was alot shorter and looked really young compared to me then. however now hes grown into a man, hes taller and luks diff. while me, look relatively the same.....( apart from being more khubsoorat with age mashllah wah !) so we were quite close before too but because he was so short and babyish then, it wasnt a big deal. now however it did look abit weird.

and omg, we did hold hands...lol...........omg, is this normal? who else holds hands with their BILS...:{ but no sharing from plate. but anyway what made me think hes was abit overdramatic. was when he said if someone tried to stop us two fom talking to each other, he would never stop tlking to me, even if it was my husband ( his bro) or his own dad that tried to stop him talking to me... so i was like :-/ OKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKK

Other than that, my mind may be hyper and yes maybe i do think every man fancies me.. :-?

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lol,

fantasies :chai:

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Nadzy,

Get a job and stay away from your BIL.

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i have a job.