Well Islam says, “Husband is responsible for the basic needs of a wife”. How can we define basic needs?
1- Home
2- Food
3- Clothing, makeup etc
3rd Item as per my married friend is most debatable item of “BASIC NEEDS”. As he puts it
“abey yaar XXXX (bhabi’s name) also links 100$-200$ cloths,makeup,jewlry etc every month to the basic needs. Ager bolo k, kia zarorat hai tu she reminds me the “basic needs” that husband has to fulfill…and how I should be fulfilling her basic needs before helping my parents out with the some money…and I end up spending money on her cloths etc”
How can we define the boundries of BASIC NEEDS? Items to be included/excluded. Of course if Husband (by his own will) wants to buy his wife 1000000$ cloths, makeup every month no problem but what if the budget is limited? What is the point where Husband should say … enough is enough …no more black mailing?
one of the examples when u know that nothing beats using your mind and logic instead of turning to stuff layed down by religion.
islam says this and islam says that.....
islam originally said "worship your creator, recognize him, praise him, thank him, love him and do good to fellow humans"
yeh basic needs tau humm figure out kerr sakte hain....
as far as material needs....IF a husband can provide shelter, put 3 meals a day on the table with meat if desired, keep wifey and kids warm in winter, cool in summer, keep everyone in decent clothing....well then all needs are met. anything beyond this is gravy and should be appreciated...not just from perspective of wife to husband but from overall humanity....the above things are available to THE TOP 3 PERCENT of humans on the planet. So how lucky are YOU?!!
makeup is NOT to be considered a "need"!!! lol!! matter of fact, with 3 little boys running around, its more likely to end up on our walls rather than my face!
Yeah but still, isnt sex considered a basic need ??
It’s common sense really.. if he can afford to giv her $$ for extra clothes and makeup and whatever and support his parents then kewl.. but if his mother needs $ for medicine or somethin and his wife gets pissy coz that money wuda gone to a new pair of shoes for her thats kinda bitchy and she deserves a slap
well yeah, sex is a basic need but one that can be provided by hubby most readily (in most cases) and so mostly isnt too troublesome an issue. when you're talking about the newest shoes, makeup, clothes etc then if they can afford great - if not then the wife shouldnt complain yeah?
Make up and excessive clothing isn't a basic need, it's a luxury which many of us can afford before marriage ... so we expect it after we get married too. :p
No, it's not a basic need though. I'm sure many of us could live without it.
Respect, love and affection are basic needs on top of home, safety and a shelter.
there were many hundreds of people going about their own business when -
a tsunami dessimated their entire village or
an earthquake crumbled their towns....
even if they HAD the money, there was no more store to buy things. We the ones with so many grocery stores, delis and restaurants tend to take all of it for granted. Can you IMAGINE what it would be like? I can, at least to some small degree, and it makes me so VERY thankful for the richness in my life of putting meals on the table and giving my boys the latest Bob the Builder DVD.
Why are we even talking about a wife's basic material needs? Shouldn't they be a human's basic material needs? Do men and women have different basic needs? As far as I'm concerned, food, water, shelter, sense of belonging are key to both, men and women. What is this obsession with acting like women are these strange animals that are so different from men?
And I'll say this again, why is it mostly umarried people who are so concerned with the wants/needs/behavior of wives and husbands?
Material needs should be limited to sufficient food, shelter and safety. The next tier is emotional and physical needs (i.e. affection/sex). I'm sure one can find religious references to back this up.
We are not talking about needs but about the “responsibility” of the needs. Like Man should be fulfilling the basic needs of the wife, its his “responsibility” but when it comes to …lets say Makeup, shoes (one/two pair every month) etc should this be his responsibility to?
