But once someone is at college or uni u can't really stop them dating, can u?
Rather than be in denial about something that prob is happening why not try and take an interest so u can actually keep an eye on them and hopefully have it result in marriage rather than what I've seen with so many desi parents who pretend it's not happening.. their kids (moreso sons) hop from bed to bed with no respect for the other person and have the view that their gfs are not 'worth' marrying as they have learned this skewed viewpoint from their parents.. that to me is worse..
would be nice if people also posted what their earliest experience with dating was, and at what age. it'd be stupid expecting our kids to be dumber than us when it comes to sneaky stuff..esp when we'd be old and slow by then. hmm..
But once someone is at college or uni u can't really stop them dating, can u?
Rather than be in denial about something that prob is happening why not try and take an interest so u can actually keep an eye on them and hopefully have it result in marriage rather than what I've seen with so many desi parents who pretend it's not happening.. their kids (moreso sons) hop from bed to bed with no respect for the other person and have the view that their gfs are not 'worth' marrying as they have learned this skewed viewpoint from their parents.. that to me is worse..
I think i am going to be a strict mother. I will start looking for her rishtas as soon as she reaches Uni I will marry her off between 22-24 inshAllah.
Really? I remember when I was younger, my mum used to tell my dad she didn’t want me going off to a western university for studies without getting engaged. And here I am, still single
her? is this thread about girls dating or do you consider yourself and all women to be a lower species than men, like all desi woman are raised to believe.
queer i dont but inshAllah i hope to have kids some day :@:
Philo, him or her, but for him he has to be at least earning and standing on his feet. I dont think lower of women ... *sighs at some ppl mentality"
"marry off" yes whats wrong with that? u can keep ur kids at home, ur choice.
@Rizla i did say inshAllah, which means "With Allah's will". What i said are only my plans. Its best for gals to get married as soon as they finishes their studies.
I think each child has a different age where they can prioritize their life, become responsible for themselves, and distinguish right and wrong without the involvement of parents. So I think that's the age where it's appropriate to choose a spouse through dating. Each child experiences this at a different age.
So many posters mentioned 21 as the "it" number, but that means absolutely nothing if the child is not responsible.
Err yeah, just because someone goes through something does not mean every other person does. Most people have almost no trust issues with their children. Some children might rebel and act up and ‘hop from bed to bed’ but that does not constitute a majority. No way.
High Freakin’ Five G! Bret ‘The Hitman’ Hart was my childhood hero! Then I grew up… :hinna:
It depends on the individual child. Each child is different. Some are very mature at 18 but some are still imature at 23! I definetly won't allow it before 19 though. The one thing that won't change is the reason they are dating. If it is because they found someone they will marry in a few years but they aren't out of uni yet and therefore can't get married yet it is fine...but I will need to meet their bf or gf and see if the person is serious and not just messing around.
I started dating at 19 and my mother allowed it at that age because she knew I found someone that I was potentially going to marry. I was never into dating just for the hell of it or for "fun."
I can't stand people that date for leisure and not marriage.
I will marry her off between 22-24 inshAllah.
or do you consider yourself and all women to be a lower species than men, like all desi woman are raised to believe.
WHAT A FREAKING LIBERTY.