I have a certain issue in mind which comes time and time again. I see it everyday
I have seen it so many times yet people are ignorant towards it. Ok here goes..
One of the major reasons why marriages fail today is that one partner dosent feel attracted to the other because they are overweight. Often when aggrieved spouse tells their partner that they are overweight turns into a sensitive issue. Women specially take it quite personally. Men on other hand are often quite lazy and fail to take care of themselves. How would you feel if ur partner tells u that you are overweight - what would your reaction be? Would you complain as do 90% of the people faced with the bitter truth “I dont find you attractive anymore because you are overweight” or would you just lose a few extra pounds and look better?
I think this could be a pretty good discussion if a mature heads prevail. so add in…
Political correctness aside, I think its an interesting thought. Both partners in a relationship should keep themselves attractive to each other. If one is gaining unnecessary weight (some weight gain after child birth is natural), they should make an attempt to get back in shape. A genuine medical problem, on the other hand, is something both partners should work through. But sheer laziness is not an excuse.
I can’t stand people who workout for others. I meet guys and girls in the gym with excuses like..oh I’m getting married next month so I only have three weeks to get in shape…Why don’t you start respecting your own self first and then worry about others.
In a long term relationship..emotional bonding is more important..there is always always a better looking girl/guy out there no matter what shape you are in....but that's not an excuse to let yourself go.
How young are you?? People change over time. Women have kids which changes the body. Metabolism changes the body. When you go into marriage, you are marrying the person for what is inside not outside. Weight loss and gain should not be a major factor for the long term.
That being said — I am not a small woman, I am tall and slightly overweight. My husband keeps telling me to gain a bit more weight. He keeps telling me to have more food, buys sweets (which I don’t really like, never have) and that he likes padding on a woman , so am I supposed to gain weight just because he wants it?
People are missing the point. It's not about weight. It's about letting yourself go and simply not caring about your appearance because you don't have to. If that person was single, I bet he/she would give a damn.
haha.. i went to gym few months before my wedding.. but turned out he doesnt care what i look like. so i stopped, n now i have gained all the un necessary weight . so this time i’ve decided to hit the gym again, not for him but for myself! marriage is turning out to be a good thing for me
Inside?? really? - arent we forgetting that us pakis are perhaps the most materialistic people in the world. We marry because someone because they have money and other materialistic xyz. We hardly ever marry someone because they are good human beings - our parents are very good at finding the richest family for us to live a outwardly happy life. But this is off the topic here and I can go on forever…
Im 22 and Im not naive as most most of so called wise elders may otherwise think. You mention metabolism - true it decreases with age but not to the extent where one has layers upon layers of fat accumulating as is quite evident. Go out and youll will be frustrated trying to find someone over 28-30 who is not out of shape. Women plump and men with their big round bellies and half bald heads. Sorry - metabolism is just a excuse…it decreases ever so slightly not enough for weight gain.
Personally I think its our diet - chapaties, rich rice meals like biryani - all cooked in oil. I find it totally uneccessary to sit in large groups of family memebers and eat on endlessly without any count of how much I am eating. Its quite surprising how much we eat in a single sitting. This combined with our generally lazy attitude and no exercise results in fat buttocks and double chins. What do you think?
P.S. Please do yourself a favour and stop eating everything your hubby tells you and let sanity prevail.
if I get married and my wife crosses the 120 pounds benchmark, I am leaving her fat ass. And I am not kidding people. I think being fat is disgusting and I don't wanna be with a disgusting fat slob.
koi moti tazi bhense dekhne 
, so am I supposed to gain weight just because he wants it?