weight blues - marriage

[Mehnaz]

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@saimanyc

I make sure I stay under 86lbs so my husband won’t leave me!

are you serious?

[Majestic]

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@saimanyc

I make sure I stay under 86lbs so my husband won’t leave me!

what?

[nabila]

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@Rukhsarbibi

^ so what’s the point of a superficial relationship?

Ill be a complete ignorant fool if I were to think that 99% of the people would be attracted to someone overweight. Dont you think spouses who are out of shape are ina superficial relationship already if they dont care how they appear to their partners?

[Sidra54]

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According to your logic, i may never get married!

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Dont you think spouses who are out of shape are ina superficial relationship already if they dont care how they appear to their partners?
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Explain.

[nabila]

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@Sidra54

According to your logic, i may never get married!

Explain.

Why should my logic should prevent you from getting married?

If spouses don’t care how they look and think that the other partner should be attracted to them unconditionally is unrealisitic. They are simple lying if they say they are. All I am saying here is that physcial appearance of a person should not be considered superfical - its a part of you - it shows how disciplined you are with your eating - its very much a part of your personality.

[skhan]

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Damn, we need more women like nabila who don’t hide behind excuses or philosophies. :k:

[system]

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@nabila

Ill be a complete ignorant fool if I were to think that 99% of the people would be attracted to someone overweight. Dont you think spouses who are out of shape are ina superficial relationship already if they dont care how they appear to their partners?

no, its not superficial… there is something beyond physical appearance..

sure u should be attracted to the person your marrying or are married to, but maybe to some attraction inst bout how many rolls you have in ur body.. or watever… maybe ur spouse does find that attractive (ie. minah_pa’s hubby)

geez.. uve just insulted more than half of our parents here.. who prob are overweight and still happily married…

[skhan]

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no one finds 300 pound men/women attractive
if you do then you got bigger problems than your marriage

[Phat_gurl]

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@nabila

I have a certain issue in mind which comes time and time again. I see it everyday

• I have seen it so many times yet people are ignorant towards it. Ok here goes..

  One of the major reasons why marriages fail today is that one partner dosent feel attracted to the other because they are overweight. Often when aggrieved spouse tells their partner that they are overweight turns into a sensitive issue. Women specially take it quite personally. Men on other hand are often quite lazy and fail to take care of themselves. How would you feel if ur partner tells u that you are overweight - what would your reaction be? Would you complain as do 90% of the people faced with the bitter truth “I dont find you attractive anymore because you are overweight” or would you just lose a few extra pounds and look better?

I think this could be a pretty good discussion if a mature heads prevail. so add in…

Are you referring to desi people?

[Shak_killS]

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well even though a relationship more based on emotions and whats inside a person.

but i really hate when people really dont care about this issue and become too fat and they cant change just for other people, well i think its good for them to look good. certainly its going to effect the physical side of relationship, though the emtional bondding it there.

[saimanyc]

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@MehnazQ

are you serious?

No, ofcourse I’m joking. It just seems so ridiculous to put that much emphasis on weight. You marry in sickness and in health. Sometimes women (more often than men) eat out of emotional reasons and use food as comfort. If they are in a bad marriage to begin with, their husband may use weight as just another reason to argue.

[Devoted2Allah]

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@Faisal

Political correctness aside, I think its an interesting thought. Both partners in a relationship should keep themselves attractive to each other. If one is gaining unnecessary weight (some weight gain after child birth is natural), they should make an attempt to get back in shape. A genuine medical problem, on the other hand, is something both partners should work through. But sheer laziness is not an excuse.

i agree, once married the partners should make that extra effort to stay in shape and make an effort to look good…people like for example my silly brother think that marriage means you can let yourself go, ie you dont need to care about the way you look, weight, style etc becoz the person should love you the way you are…thats true to an extent that the person should love you unconditionally blah blah…but wouldnt you want to look good for your hubby/wife ? why would you want that passion to die out? and also you wouldnt want your partnet to be looking or desiring the another man/woman.

[Majestic]

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@saimanyc

No, ofcourse I’m joking. It just seems so ridiculous to put that much emphasis on weight. You marry in sickness and in health. Sometimes women (more often than men) eat out of emotional reasons and use food as comfort. If they are in a bad marriage to begin with, their husband may use weight as just another reason to argue.

I agree but than again its a “guy thing”. I mean its not like all guys are GQ to begin with and some after marriage become even worst.

[Sara516]

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What is the big deal here?

Stay in shape, watch what you eat, get some exercise, 30 minutes a day 3 times a week is better than nothing, keep urself clean and not stinking of curry 24/7, SHAVE! put some lotion on those ashy elbows and arms, SHOWER EVERYDAY…if u start to lose hair, well get some rogaine.

Being attractive doesn’t mean going to extremes like getting a four years of Harvard tuition’s worth of plastic surgery, or anything like that. Yeah bodies change over time, boobs sag, hair falls off, u cant change those things, that’s just time and nature. It just shows you care enough to want to look nice for ur significant other. You get ppl who look like siht for thier spouses but will dress up for total strangers. Does that make any sense?

So i don’t see the need for any protests or excuses. Don’t be an ugly smelly slob n ur spouse won’t leave you. And this goes for women AND men :k:

[Dopey]

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@PyariCgudia

It’s such a turn-on when the other person gets worried about your weight and starts hiding chocolates :halo:

Alright…this is hilarious!