weddings - no kids allowed

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What do you do when you’re invited to a wedding but without the kid(s)?

Would one of you go and the other babysit? or arrange babysitters? or just not go at all?

I understand people not wanting to have kids running around at their wedding reception.. but its funny when these same people have kids of their own and then want to take their kids to every event..

so, how do you arrange things in sitations where your whole family may be invited but strictly no kids allowed

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I won't go !

my baby comes 1st and if my baby isn't allowed at some gathering then I really don't have the desire to go there.

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it sounds rude to say sorry, kids are not allowed.

But yes parents should an eye on wat their kids are doing at the wedding...i have seen in some wedding, kids are running around. damaging the decor while the mom is happily chit chatting and doesnt bother to say anything to the kid

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there are lot more wedding esp gori/arabs/iranian/and some desis that say no kids allowed on the invitation card. We had few of them...one of us went to those wedding and other stayed home with my son. We didn't have a good babysitter at that time.
There was one wedding though, my hubby best friends, we aksed then if we can bring my son, they said it is okk since the bride and groom's neices and nephews were going to the wedding to.
I don't have problem leaving out son at babysitter, but hubby doesn't like it, so we tag him along or one of us go.

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Its very Rude.

Parents should do take care of their Kids

But at the same time - they are Ronak of a Family

I would not do such thing of my invitations

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I would not bring my kids. Its not my wedding, its someone else's special day, so if they dont want kids at their wedding, so be it. If thats their choice, I think its direspectful to whine about it. Its just one night, your kid wont die one night without you. So I would have the kid babysat by someone.

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I was at a wedding in Serena Islamabad last year, and a bunch of kids just raided and messed up the decor and flowers on the stage. I felt so bad, because a lot of time, effort and money went into setting up all that. It would probably be reflected in the pictures as well. Sadly, the parents were sitting, chatting up casually while their kids wreaked havoc. I've also been to alot of white weddings here and have never seen such an outrageous display of behavior from kids here.

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Why they say no kids lol .. I take my kids, my relatives kids and all the kids i can contact .. teach the hosts a lesson .. without kids .. half the shadi is dead.

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I feel that to be rude (unless its an invitation from someone not-so-close). Although I agree that kids in general and Desi kids in particular can be really destructive but if someone is so organized thinking about all this, I am sure they can throw in 200$-300$ to hire couple of babysitters at the location.

In USA, you can hire proff baby-sitters for under $500 who come in with their own stuff (toys, music, books etc). They keep kids busy for 2-3 hours without any problem

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I think the hosts wants to do ''bachat on food' :D

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yeah and on top of it

"no boxed gifts" print on the card just ads salt to wounds :)

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whatever the reasoning may be......you should consider yourself privileged to have been invited.

stop complaining.

if you want to go, find a place to leave your kids.
if you don't want to go then simply let them know that you can't make it.

why are people so difficult and bent upon having things only their own way?????

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People are not bent on having things their way but discussion about what could have been and what should have been only betters things

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But why shouldn't it have been the way the hosts have requested?

Maybe in their eyes that is better.

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This idea is a spawn of this desi generation and an alien one to the generation thats headed out of the door. Alot of us *this *generation people are very much *that *generation people too. Hence the conhpusion and the need to question.

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No one force it onto hosts to change any of their plans. Off course people have only 2 options (as you have already mentioned) but there is no harm discussing it how to make it better.

By the way sometimes even hosts miss out on something. like they might know that babysitting services can be obtained at minimum fee etc. There is no harm in tossing up the ideas.

I prefer Listen to everyone but do what you think is best and I believe many others believe on this too

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I would show up with the kids with the express decision to wreck they wedding.

So what if it is her day and she will only have one wedding. They are my kids and how dare she put the one important day of her life ahead of what my bratty kids feel like doing!!

That *****!

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Well if i had kids the kids come first.

Besides children need to see weddings to understand... like they say it's not something thats gonna happen all the time.

If the marriage was of people in my fammily they wouldn't dare make such a request but if the people were not related to me or did not know me well then why would i go thier wedding in the first place?

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I won't find this rude. I prefer to leave my kids with their grandparents or aunts if the function starts after 8 at night coz they need their sleep.

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^ Thats actually very wise.

I suppose timing and purpose of the function is also crucial to such decisions