weddings are overrated

[fat_spartan]

@yanzala

…ok, i am not sure where to start, but recently i am just getting sick of the idea of big weddings. with hundreds of guest, thousands of dollars spent on venue, clothing jewelry etc so your relatives, and so called friends can complain later how they didn’t like the way seetings where arranged or the chicken was cooked, or how the dress was too paindo, or to expensive (…and howtheir darzi can do a better dress in fraction of the cost)

why can’t we just do a baat pakki and few days later have a nikkah in a masjid and rukhtasi. THAT’S IT, SIMPLE!

but no we can’t do that, becaue we are desi and our parents would never agree to it because dunya kiya kahay gi, people will gossip and question that why they had a wedding in such a hurry without a huge function, what was the problem..blah blah blah, but the my point is, they going to find a reason to complain and gossip even if we have huge function and spend thousand of dollars, then why not save all the money and let them gossip when that’s what they would have done the other way around too.

what do u guys think? i know weddings are suppose to be fun and all that, but i just think that they are getting too overrated.

bride and groom who should be happy and excited about their life together are busy fighting over decoration or upset over how their cloths didn’t turn out to be the way they wanted. or upset over the fact that dj didn’t play the song they wented to have on when they would walk in together. or something just as stupid and meaningless takes the happiness away from the moment.

P.S. i am not engaged, or getting marry anytime soon. i was just thinking about that stuff for future WHEN i get married.

I don’t see anything wrong in inviting many people if you’re really that close to them. For all the people you invite, you have to have the appropriate food and seating accomodations for them. Other than that I think people make too big a deal of it. I’ve heard of people spending over $50000 on a single reception. A lot of times, it seems people just spend that much and try to have a big flashy function to out-do others. I think that’s just a waste, and it’s even worse if you need to take loans to do it.

I find that people also spend too much time/money and headache over things like entry/exit/whatever else music, professional photographers and over the top decorations.

From my own experience, I’d say that the weddings I enjoyed the most as a guest were the ones where I’ve enjoyed the food and the company. No gimmicks needed.