What tradition (rasams) do you people have for weddings in our family we have the ever so famous dhood-pilaee rasam where the dulhans sisters sit offer a glass of milk and then demand money and we also hide his shoe and then demand for money. Another is when the dulha comes with the barat he cuts a ribbon before entering and in return gives the dulhans sisters money (other even have it the other way where they cut the ribbon when the dulhan enters the house, which I think makes more sense)…another one I found quiet funny is that when the dulhan opens her jihaize suitcase the dulhas sisters get the suit on the very top… knowing this in one wedding we purposely put the most simple bright colored suit on top and the dulhas family was disgusted with our bad taste…we got a kick out of that one…so guppies share your family traditions…
isnt it just waste of money and un-islamic?????
Ok, hmm where do I start, we have like a whole load of rasams.
At the mehndi, the brides sisters/frends actually put ganne on the bride (bracelets) after the thail mehndi rasam is done.
We also stop the barat and demand money from the grooms side.
The Grooms sisters also tell the groom to drink milk and demand money or this also, also once the nikah has been done we generally let the bride and groom sit together. Before this is done though the grooms sisters actually sit on the seat next to the bride and demand money before letting the groom sit next his bride, this is really funny! and the brides mates also give the groom mitai and get money for this, we also do the hiding the shoe things.
So as you can probs tell we have a lot of fun!!
And I do love weddings!!
in my family the newly arrived bride has to mud wrestle few of herbest friends. Bride and her sisters have to go through a family wet t-shirt contest and the grooms have to be gagged and kicked till they pass out.
A tradition cherished more than religion :)
You’ve got to be kidding me 
Wow these are great!! i have the same ones as pakiezz_e1
we don't have hidin a shoe!!!
Hi ppl,
we don't have hiding shoes but the rest are mor or less the same.
Here is story:
My cusin (mamooN zad Bro) got married last year and from a different place than where they stay. We (20 os us ) went from UK guys and Gals. When barat went to brides house they did not let the groom sit on the stage coz they were demanding money...
I had all the money (becouse my older cousin whose brother was getting married and he is not into these sort of things and his blood Pressure gets very high in seconds so I requested him not to make big fuss of anyfin during all the rasams. he was looking for an execuse and he handed all the money to me and he said u deal with it. Good riddence hey he can go any where he wants and I was the one left stuck with old ladies to get the bash from them..)
So we tried to sit on the stage but hey hey there were loads of gals demanding for money so I was well prepared for it I said forget it man we will sit down with the baraties what's the point of giving money and sitting on the chair I said to my cousin don't worry nikkah is done already so no worries so we both sat down and they say oh u guys are kanjoos mukhi choos I said so what we are kanjoos mukhi choos u can call whar ever u want i don't give a damn. I was their to give hard time to gals then everybody said give them money I took out 50 paisa from my pocket and tried to give it to girls but they said no then 1 rupee then 10 then 100 then 1000 and eventually they took RS. 20000 from after 30 mins of fight.
Everybody said u gave really hard time to gals and ladies but it was good fun.
Similiar thing happened during my brother's wedding during rasam (choori (buttered bread) in the cities this is changed from buttered bread to mithai) but I love choori and had quite lot of it.
I better not bore u more..
Take care
Saqi
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why do always the sisters get the money 
why not the brothers.
Anyway, we have lots and lots and lots of wedding traditions. Maybe I will tell you ppl about that later.
But we do the shoe stealing and milk drinking stuff too.
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isnt it just waste of money and un-islamic?????
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Agree 100% with you.
bros
According to our tradition bro gets the money as well but only youngest one. Cos he gets to sit on the laps of sis in law who just got in their house. He will not get up from their until she had not given him money he wants.
We have the same traditions as Pakeeza (and Mienu/Upton and Rasm-e-Henna etc. as well) but I don’t see the point in them, just waste of time and money and the unnecessary unIslamic intermingling of the opposite sexes.
When I get married I’m going to have just a plain simple Nikaah and a Waleema the next day.
I love these rasams, we pretty much have the ones that u guys mentioned
At my sisters wedding I made away with $3,750 and some nice gifts:love: now i’m waiting for my cousins wedding in February to refill my bank 
r turn
To aap ki bari kab hai?
Re: r turn
why do u wanna know 
Re: Re: r turn
I might chip in a gift as well 
bhangra:
Saqi
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ok 
well, u’ll have to wait three years
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There is a hadith which i'm grossly paraphrasing...where prophet mohammed (slw) said that you can maintain your customs and culture as long as it is not worshipping another god or makes you appear from another religon....
I don't see what these games have to do with unislamic? They are fun, light, met in good fun and just a way to make life/marriage enjoyable...
We have:
- moo dikhai ka rasm (after the nikkha the bride and groom sit together and see each other's face in a mirror. we did this at mine where i had a tissue dubutta during the nikkah and we both went under it while we looked into a mirror with red rose petals in it....it looked really cute! he had to pay my cousin money to remove the red roses so he could see me)
-doodh palai
-gate kolna (ours is the girls brother's cousins stop the groom fom coming up on stage/inside for the nikkah till he pays out)
-the bride's cousins/sister stop the guy from sittin next to her until he pays out after the nikkha
-jootha chupai
- we also have choki atalna at the mehndi/taal where the bride and groom don't get up till everyone gives them money. ...it's really funny cuz the bride will stand up and then sit down till she everyone gives her money....
Doodh pilai and joota chupana are two of the more popular traditions in Pakistani wedding day ceremonies.
Hmmm nice topic:)
When i got married with my husband i had
also upton that is a yellow color paste or something.
And all family member put upton on ur face or hand
and let u eat mithai's Then a week ago i had Nikaah
and the same day also Mehndi and again all family
members let you eat Mithai and put oil in ur hair and
mehndi. Next day Baraat and also what the other Guppie told
when my hubby come my sister and cousins ask money otherwise
he cant come in the hall. So he gave them 100 or 1000 rupees i think.
Their was also doodh Pilai and also for that my Hubby gave money
to my sisters and cousins. Pehle to mere Hubby or uske bhen mere
bheno ko or mere cousins ko tang kareethi u know that hahaha.
At Walima dinn was that my brother in law ask money but i resist
so he sit on my lap until i gave him money but i still resist.
My brother in Law said if u don't gave me money i will sit till u
gave me money so finally i gave him money i don t remember
how much.
But i enjoy my wedding a lot but at Walima i got a headeach coz
my dupatta was very heavy.
Nilu..