Taking a leaf from Daffyduck I am going to post a new thread about weddings
What are the various wedding traditions you have seen done at weddings? Regardless of caste, anything goes.
I’m talking about stuff like Joota Chupayi, Doodh pilayi, that weird seeing husband and wife in mirror thing, the finding a ring in milk thing. And so on and so forth. Share your traditions for brides to be. Perhaps we might inculcate those into wedding instead of sitting there like duds on the stage!
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doodh pilayii is a must in our fam from the girls side
ungli pakraii is optional on the mehndi by the brides sisters
rasta rokaii outside the bedroom is a mustt from the guys side
but for this kind of stuff we usually decide the money stuff beforehand, & later on we play along with the bargaining for fun for a bit ;)
by the way can anyone tell me whats the average for dhood pilayi these days in pk?
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What is ungli pakrai? And I was wondering about more random customs in different families, beyond the usual.
This picture gives an accurate estimate about amount for doodh
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What is ungli pakrai? And I was wondering about more random customs in different families, beyond the usual.
LOL love the picture, ill have to show it to my sisters.
& as for ungli pakrai, its when the brides sister are doing the mehndi rasam, as soon as they put mehndi on the leaf on his hand or whatever they take hold of his pinky & refuse to let go of it till he pays up.
bechara dulha.sad life.
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Im holding onto husband's wallet :P
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Serha bandi where the sister of the groom puts ties the serha onto his face. My brother didn't want one so I have to put his duputta onto him instead!
Rasta rokna after the nikkah has taken place. Girls side stop the groom from sitting down next to the bride.
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doodh pilayii is a must in our fam from the girls side
ungli pakraii is optional on the mehndi by the brides sisters
rasta rokaii outside the bedroom is a mustt from the guys side
but for this kind of stuff we usually decide the money stuff beforehand, & later on we play along with the bargaining for fun for a bit ;)
by the way can anyone tell me whats the average for dhood pilayi these days in pk?
we dont have doodh pilayi rasam in our family. amount of money fixes before actual event.
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lol i remember this one never seen it happen here in the uk but i seen it happen in most wedding movies that used to come over frm pak, it was one rasam that used to make me laugh when the bride comes bck to the groom's house they make her sit on a chair the groom stands next to her, then they get this lota filled with water the grooms mother does abt 5 or 6 turns round the brides head thn on the last turn the groom has to try and stop his mother frm drinking the water :)
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another one i remember was on my cousen wedding i was in pak all us girls stood at the enterance of the hall a ribbon going across so when the barat comes they cant go in so at that point they do the dood pilai rasam and ask for money and them ask for more money to come in then the groom cuts the ribbon :)
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Yes, my family do all that stupid crap.
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anyone ever hear about one where they throw vegetables on the guy's side?
Like saas ko timatar se marte hein and stuff?
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This is one of the traditions my family follows - yes, it happens in the UK too. 
Another family tradition is where the grooms brother sits on the brides lap and she gives him a punch and then gives him money. (This takes place when the bride arrives at her in-laws). Lol, now don’t ask me why it happens. 
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anyone ever hear about one where they throw vegetables on the guy's side?
Like saas ko timatar se marte hein and stuff?
A good few years ago, when the groom turned up to the bride's house, the welcoming party from the brides side would throw shelled peanuts at the groom. It doesn't happen anymore though. :D
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haha yeah I've seen the one where the bil sits on the bride's lap. I've also seen when the bride has to recite something from the quran and they give HER money after I think. And then I saw this really weird almost creepy one where my mamu and mumani had to play this weird game when she came back after rukhsati. They put one foot in this tub of water and have to do something, I don't remember...but it was awkkkkkkk.
My friends were telling me there's some other one that they do in their family having to do with kheer, where the groom has to eat kheer from a spoon that the bride's holding but everyone keeps moving the bride's hand to make it difficult.
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i am def doing this for my nand’s wedding. It’s in a small town, doubt anyone’s seen this
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I had the dhood pilai, rasta rokna, juta chupai at my wedding. I wish I had know about others... or the ones where I had to give money....b/c I had no clue. When I got home, some cousin put her baby in my lap...and I guess I was supposed to give the baby money?? but how much?????????? I think I didn't give enough... was this the Godh baryi rasm?? No idea
I really wanted the Mirror rasm (Arshi masraf or something?) but family said we didn't do that in our rasms .....so :(
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^ I think godh baryi is different. It happens on the mehndi. Groom's side put a giant basket of dry fruit and nuts on the brides lap.
The one you are talking about happens after the wedding when the bride comes back to the inlaws. The youngest male on the groom's side sits on the bride's lap. Meant encourage her to have sons! She then gives him money. Also there is no set limit. My cousin's son wanted toy cars when his chachoo got married!
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I wont let this happen to my saas. Buri baat. :nono:
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LO , cheri, itni achi bahu na bano