Wedding shopping list

[Sara516]

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I have to lern to make parathas frm scratch u know ;)

[Rukhsarbibi]

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@shweetdreamz

i have a few questions regarding wedding shopping… is the girl who is getting married supposed to be the one deciding how much clothes and jewellery she wants to buy or is it her parents? i mean in case a girl wants more of it or less of it…is it her right or the parents? is the girl barred from spending her own money or if she is earning money she is “supposed” to spend money for her wedding goodies? or is it only the parents “duty” to spend…
i am asking from a traditional, cultural and a “loag kya kahain gay” point of view…just a general idea as to how much control and decision making the girl has over this (or does it vary from household to household?)

I think depends from household to household. In Pak, most girls don’t work so the parents pay for the whole wedding shabang. In the US most girls work so they contribute to the wedding expenses.
For example - I told my mom how much I could afford to pay for the clothes and jewelry she wanted to give me and she was Ok with that. :k:
I told her I don’t want the whole mehndi/bari extravagant show-off routine common in Pak and she is absolutely adamant on having a mehndi and won’t budge from her idea
So in the end I win some and I lose some eventhough I want to win all :o

[Rukhsarbibi]

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@Sara516

I have to lern to make parathas frm scratch u know ;)

I don't like parathas at all.
I have to learn to make kay-bobs and soft koftas :D

[shweetdreamz]

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@Rukhsarbibi

I think depends from household to household. In Pak, most girls don’t work so the parents pay for the whole wedding shabang. In the US most girls work so they contribute to the wedding expenses.
For example - I told my mom how much I could afford to pay for the clothes and jewelry she wanted to give me and she was Ok with that. :k:
I told her I don’t want the whole mehndi/bari extravagant show-off routine common in Pak and she is absolutely adamant on having a mehndi and won’t budge from her idea
So in the end I win some and I lose some eventhough I want to win all :o

thnkx rukh.

[nia_khan]

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@smilestar

i think it’s all of waste of money
i mean why the heck spend so much money on jewelry that you’re only gonna wear for one or two days, and then it sits there in the safety deposit box of the bank collecting dust (nevermind you paying them for it!)

..and why do you need soooooo many joray for? even 10-15 is a lot!! do you know come with clothes of your own? oohhh..and don’t get me started on giving joray to the in-laws and their poora khandan. they’re not getting married, are they? so then? and the whole showing clothes to everyone - what point are you trying to make? that we’re so and so rich ..and that we can afford to give all these things? (nia jee - no offense hon..and it’s in no way directed at you :))

aauughh..it makes me mad when i see so much money being wasted on fazool things. nevermind the large amounts of $$ that are being spend on banquet halls and inviting a gazillion people.
put the money to better use people!

okay, that’s it i think. i need to get my frustration out..

naah!

Its all good i dont understand various other things myself.

I think the reason they give so many joray - agar hum Rich hote to idhar kia kar rahe hote - abhi apne nokaron se paao dabwaa rahi hoti *sigh

35 joray does’nt mean all of them were top notch lehngas etc. Dadi and Dada abu believed kids should make their own life. They gave clothes, gold and money to them. Rest is all up to them. There was furniture nothing like that. Dadi ami ji never even asked for anything like that from her bhaho’s parents either. It worked our perfect. Almost all of my chacha’s have their own house except for 2. They want to live in the same house where they grew up. It has memories of Dadi and dada abu ji Allah dono ko jannat ata karey Ameen]

• okay now i miss them i am gona go now… *sigh

muzna- taNkana *grin

[smilestar]

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@Rukhsarbibi

I don't like parathas at all. I have to learn to make kay-bobs and soft koftas :D

how could you not like parathas?! they're go best with aloo cholay :D

and what's kay-bobs? :-|

[smilestar]

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@Rukhsarbibi

I totally agree w/ you Smiley! But the problem is that it ends up being your parents wedding rather than your wedding when it comes to us desis

yup - that i understand..
but we need to tell them that it’s a waste of money doing all this - they’re just putting extra burden on their shoulders? and for what? show?
and parents really need to understand that they can’t control every aspect of **our **wedding..
like another guppie said before, i’d rather have that money put towards a mortgage or downpayment for where i’m gonna live after getting married …

[Lusi]

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^^
ya I rather have them pay my student loan and I'll take they guy to the local mosque and get married :D

[hira_ah]

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@nia_khan

muzna may be my dadi side is still extremely paindu.

I have seen this and a proof is video of my chach’s wedding.

kapre tangana… example — Front side of kameez stay the way it is- take the sleeves put them towards the back of the kameez— Then take shalwar [there is a nice and professional way to sew this as well - you really ahve to see the pictures to believe it and then ] put shalwar and dupata on the back of kameez Basically when you flip the kameez you will see dupata and shalwar both.] Sometimes they would wrap them in plastic bag so everything remains clean.

They would take towel and sew underwear on the it. Underwear is wrapped nicely so it doesnt look to horrible. Take socks and put two or three stiches on it as well. NO they don’t tie a bra on it :halo:

Once they are done showing they would have to put those clohes on someone’s lap. And the people who qualify are usually - Ghar ki barhi baho, sisters or mother in law… if they are not there then near cousins.

i forgot what else was on it… someone help me out here…

i know i aint the only paindu production of punjab here…

this ‘kapray tankna’ rasam is definitely a show-off tactic!

[Sara516]

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Hmmm well my dads bringing back a coupla outfits, besies the lengha, maybe 5-6 fancy/non-fancy outfits..ill have to buy the matching jewelry and churiyan and shoes and bags from here when he comes back.. :halo:

[mahanoor]

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for myself i will include
nice makeups stuff
nice clothess
like 3 gold set
1 set of gold churiya ( atlest 8 bangels in it)
nice purse
suitcase
etc etc

[Sara516]

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I wish I had a sister

[Orpheus]

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...aren't you married yet?

You've been on about marriage for months now.

[Sara516]

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^ This thread is a little old :p

[Afro-Sheen]

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For the jorre, its super expensive to buy them from the US/Canada. You can easily visit Pak, get all your outfits/jewelry made and still come out cheaper than getting them made here. And jeez the styles rock back home, esp in Lahore. Ahem do not get too many outfits, because guy's side will be making them fro you as well, and as mentioned they will go out of style quickly. If you really need to have several outfits for whatever reason, get open suits which you can have sewn later. Also be careful, after the wedding, after some time, all the outfits might not fit you as well.

[Orpheus]

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@Sara516

^ This thread is a little old

…rub it in why don’t ya.

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zara iltejah sunke deewane dil ki mujhe apane dil se laga

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[Decent_6Chora]

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Depends, you can gather 2 Gawah’s and go to mosque to do nikkah (no kharacha at all other than khajoors :P) or you can spend 100k or more on your wedding. All depends on how much your pocket allows you to spend (pocket and not credit cards).

Wasiey main nai suna hai k aab Pakistan main lerkiaan (dulhan i mean) shadi k din bhee artificial jewelry pehen raheen hain :k:

[Afro-Sheen]

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yeah some people give the dulha gifts and his family gifts depending on the tradition in your family. I got married in Paki and my mom got like 7-8 shirts for him, including casual and dress shirts with ties...as well as a few pants. He also got cologne set, a shaving set (norelco)...umm we got his shadi day sherwani. I was TOTALLY against it, but my mom got his mom a set of gold bangles. His sister in law also got gold earring and a chain. And his sister also got something of that nature. I don't see why we have to dress the whole family. We also got outfits packaged in that shiny plastic, for all his direct aunti/uncles. I was really mad at that idea, it makes no sense, but it was something my parents felt they had to do, otherwise it would look bad in the khandan. I think that's silly, but I let parents do what they felt. I was just quietly annoyed. Anyways again I would suggest do NOT get too many outfits made either from your side or your husbands side...unless you plan on continuing some sort of exercise routing. You can and will gain weight, and a lot of outfits might become useless.