Re: Wedding rasams..
Well, my 13 yr old cousin did the doodh pilai and the rasta rokhna rasam…this was her first wedding ever, so she ditn really know what “to do”..but it was funny, she was very straightforward, she said “gimme money,” they gave her money and she walked away..didn’t even try to fight for a larger amount 
On the valima, theres a rasam, where hte devar sits on the bride’s lap and she gives him money…for some reason i stupidly thought he literally sat on my lap 
but instead he sat on the bottom…wiht all his brothers and sister and bhabhi and friends all demanding 