There was a detailed thread on that topic, you should check it out, it was pretty informative.
On desi chichorapan or envelope sized gifts? Or Big Macs?
On desi chichorapan or envelope sized gifts? Or Big Macs?
The 'no boxed gifts' phenomenon. im too lazy to use the search feature.
Re: wedding preps and the life after
though this isnt the one i was referring to:
http://www.paklinks.com/gs/wedding/277836-no-boxed-gifts-please.html
^ I dont think thats necessarily true. Most of the time its the couple that ends up paying up the debt for the lavish wedding. I wouldnt feel comfortable if my parents or his spend their life savings on our wedding. I want a big nice huge happy marriage, wedding is a secondary thing.
khawa i know what you mean and like i said my friends and family try to put that doubt and fear in my mind too but my husband had explained to me how his family is and stuff so I knew its not like their intentions are bad or they hate me its because its not tradition in their family. Alhumdulilah we have what matters most.
no dont listen to your friends or folks or relatives.. yes if they dont spend at the wedding.. they probably wont spend on anything else either... BUT.. who cares? as long as they treat u with respect and love and consideration, thats all that counts... for materialistic pleasure, u always have your husband.
OK, this is off topic, but once we were invited to a wedding, a door ka rishtaydaar, the invitation said "Envelope sized gifts only please" which essentially means cash. I was SO taken aback, I thought it was very inappropriate and cheap to spell out that they only want cash for a gift, nothing else. I ended up not going BECAUSE of that line in the invitation. I was tempted to go and put some McDonald's coupons or something in there and write "you are so cheap you probably could use a two big macs for the price of one coupon"
Gah, desis and their chichorapan, I will never get it.
No Box Gifts is pretty common in the States. In fact, most gora weddings I have been to, its understood you give the bride and groom cash on the wedding day. What is wrong with desies doing it?
The idea is to help the new couple start their life together. They have a nice wedding, invite you to come and be with them on their special day, eat their food, drink, celebrate, mingle and you find it chichorapan to give a cash gift? I would think its wierder that you dont want to support them on a life-long journey they just began...its not about you...its about them.
Hmmmm...
No Box Gifts is pretty common in the States. In fact, most gora weddings I have been to, its understood you give the bride and groom cash on the wedding day. What is wrong with desies doing it?
The idea is to help the new couple start their life together. They have a nice wedding, invite you to come and be with them on their special day, eat their food, drink, celebrate, mingle and you find it chichorapan to give a cash gift? I would think its wierder that you dont want to support them on a life-long journey they just began...its not about you...its about them.
Hmmmm...
I apologize, I didn't know that goras were doing it too, I've been to dozens of gora weddings, sophisticated ones of professionals and such, NEVER heard of it, I thought it was a desi thing. Regardless, even if goras do it, then perhaps I shouldn't say desi chichorapan, but just chichorapan. I think it's cheap to ask you to give a cash gift. I understand that it's about helping out the new couple, blah blah blah, but to actually ASK for cash as a gift, I think that that is really tacky.
Re: wedding preps and the life after
^ most weddings ive been to in the last decade (desi ones) have all said on the invitation 'no boxed gifts'
its just normal now...