wedding preps and the life after

I apologize, I didn't know that goras were doing it too, I've been to dozens of gora weddings, sophisticated ones of professionals and such, NEVER heard of it, I thought it was a desi thing. Regardless, even if goras do it, then perhaps I shouldn't say desi chichorapan, but just chichorapan. I think it's cheap to ask you to give a cash gift. I understand that it's about helping out the new couple, blah blah blah, but to actually ASK for cash as a gift, I think that that is really tacky.