Chemali and Hunni Bunni,
Why are you girls buying them gifts when they dont get you anything? Why are you buying respect, love and affection? Allah has given all us humans brains and a heart.
I am in a similar situation too.
Inlaws spent a lot of money on the walima. Alot of showing off etc...but the real deal is after marriage or one month after marriage. THATS WHEN REALITY KICKS IN!
"Hum to sumjay, shaadi ki baad, tum khushiyan lao gi, cheesay lao gi" - comments like that are made. Little comments are still being made 3yrs after marriage. Certain clothes should be worn. All they care about is showing how much they have to other ppl - its all talk 2b honest!
I used to buy them gifts and presents just so they can like but i have learnt with time, whats the point! If i still dont get respect, why should i treat them like that? Did you do that for your own family? Why ur mum/dad got upset, did you buy them something so they would be ur friend again? I didnt!
I dont bother with the presents. One thing my mum has taught me, just dont be rude to them and dont answer them back in a nasty manner. Gifts and presents will never be appreciated. These ppl are like that - presents or no presents!
Sorry about my pessimistic reply but i cant help with the way i am feeling!