^ i don't think your uncle is right- it doesn't matter what anyone else does, your sentiment is lovely. however, if you follow strict etiquette, mentioning any sort of gift rule (registry, no boxed gifts, etc.) or, conversely, no gift rule, on the invite is considered impolite.
both ways imply that a gift will be given- the first one tells the guest where to get it, the second one assumes the guest will be bringing a gift, and you don't know that for sure.
having said that, times are changing, and i don't know if i necessarily agree with everything miss manner's says.
how about something like "Your presence is the best gift you could give us. We look forward to celebrating with you!" ?
some people also suggest a donation instead which is a bit less pushy than a registry, IMHO, and also since its discreet, will leave the choice up to the guest. in this case, you'd say something like "In lieu of a gift, please consider a donation to (groom's name) & (bride's name)'s favourite charity, (name of charity)."
I wanted your opinions on whether or how to write this on our invitations?
My family is adamant that we write "no gifts" on the invitations because we just want people to share in our happiness rather than worry about what to give or how much to give, especially in such hard times. My uncle said that this "no one does this in Pakistan" and that "we'll be the laughingstock of the family" for writing this. Is he right? How can we word this to get across our sentiments?
I have seen it on so many Pakistani cards! Its not your Uncles wedding, its yours. Do what your Father says not your Uncle.
Usually you get #-cards from the guys side which you can give to the families you want to invite from your side. Its an invitation from the guys family to the close one of yours.
Bismillah Al-rahman Al-rahim
Love fills a lifetime &
Lifetime begins this day as
Fatema & Fahad
Begin a new life together
May Allah bless the couple
Ruksati 22nd April 2010
I have a wording dilemma as well and need suggestions.
My parents are divorced, so it wouldn't be appropriate to put daughter of mr and mrs so and so.
Also, my fiance's mom passed away.
I was thinking about completely omitting the son of/daughter of part. I have no idea what to do though. Any suggestions?
I have a wording dilemma as well and need suggestions.
My parents are divorced, so it wouldn't be appropriate to put daughter of mr and mrs so and so.
Also, my fiance's mom passed away.
I was thinking about completely omitting the son of/daughter of part. I have no idea what to do though. Any suggestions?
just reading through these posts for ideas for my wedding cards - no-one has put where you should write the name of the people you're inviting
like e.g. Mr and Mrs Khan are invited to your wedding - whereabouts would you write their name on the card?? Or do people not do that?? Our invitation cards always have our names written on but I haven't kept any to copy them :(
