Wedding in Moharram

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Iconoclast, the point is the tragedy had not occured at that time. Although, yes, Prophet Muhammad(saw) was informed that his(saw) beloved grandson would be martyred in Kerbala. There are reports that he even cried upon hearing the news. But lets not get into that. The point I wish to make is that, although they knew what would happen, it would be "illogical" to mourn for something( as we do today) that has not yet happened and is still in the distant future.

I dont denie that.

Fine

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Is there anything "logical" about mourning? Its about emotions. I cannot comprehend that if Hazrat Ali and Hazrat Fatima ra knew that their beloved son will be martyred in that month they will have "chosen" to marry in Muharram and they had no compelling need to be married in that month.

I have read few reports too of Rasoolullaah saw when he was informed of Shahadat of Imam Hussain ra and his grief over it, however, i haven't read that he was informed of the time and place, atleast not any sunni traditions. I do know that shiite traditons say that even the soil of kerbala was brought to Rasoolullaah saw.

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Prophet Muhammad(saw) was informed of the tragedy after the marriage of haz Ali a.s. and bibi Fatima Zahra s.a. and after the birth of Imam Hussain a.s.

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its generally up to you, but is less than desirable and seen as bad taste amongst most muslims.

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^ in the subcontinent mostly. did not see much of this among turks or arabs..or even indonesians

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So? Maybe turks or arabs or indonesians find it "ok" to celebrate at the commemoration of Imam Hussein a.s. the beloved grandson of The Prophet(saw) they follow.

Most people in subcontinent avoid it because they see it incongruous to celebrate at the commemoration of a tragic event.

As I said before some people dont forget their parents and their Prophet's(saw) family.

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With so much ignorance around, more people should get married in Muharram. This will help fight the false beliefs.

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yeah our musalmaniyat is so much stronger than all those peoples.

btw do we do anything special to commemorate the passing of the prophets sons? or of his own injuries at taif or at uhud?

is he not the most important person, heads and shoulders above anyone, no one even close to being equal to a speck of dust on his shoe? so why are those other tragedies conveniently forgotten?

and the entire MONTH is not a tragic event. I can see that one that day ppl CHOOSE not to have a wedding, but it has no basis in religion, is not haram, is not in bad taste and is a person’s personal choice.

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im not sure about arabs and turks, what they get up to so yeah its generally subcontinent and persian area.

but yeah the whole month is tragic, not just the tenth, so even though it is not haraam as shariah came before kerbala, it is definately in bad taste.

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why is the whole month tragic?
and why are other months of tragedies not important?

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because it started from the time Yazid ordered Imam to give bait, and went on to the time of the bazaars and prisonsers of shaam...

which other months?

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so now its is not the shahdat itself but the immediate surrounding events, before and after. someone can take it a step further and say that the events started earlier and then knock off a few months.

as far as other dates go..I mentioned certain other tragedies faced by the prophet himself or even his passing, why do we not remember those. what about those months?

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erm its not now, thats the way it always been. from the first to the chaleeswah.

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I can feel now that why most of the Shia brothers and sisters get married before Muharram or after 15 zilhajjaha. Rest of the time is for Majalis, not for SHADI.

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I don't think so. I myself got married in Muharram.

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yaar, saal mai 11 maheenay hayn, Moharram mai shadi kar ke Shia'on ko chherna zaroori hi? agar Emergency ho to kaheen bhi/kabhi bhi shadi kar saktay ho.

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I was working in Iran for nearly two years and I noticed that contrary to the traditions in the sub continent the Iranians only observed the 10th Muharram as the day of mourning. The rest of the days were normal and even marriages took place during that time. I was there from 1977 to 1979 during the Khomeini revolution.

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exactly.

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by now i meant the new explanation.

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I have no intention of getting married again so it dunn apply to me anymore. I am all for making sure that I maage realistic expectations and respect reasonable sensitivities of others. I just dont like it being put forth as some religious edict. Its only personal preference, that is it.