Wedding events

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Re: Wedding events

@BellaShabba

Nikaah/registry two months before
Mehndi baaraat valima

I had a marquee booked for our garden to have a dholki night but it snowed heavily in the days before wedding so i cancelled and just had a few girls at home while I had my henna done.

I wouldnt worry much what others have done and did just relax and enjoy your day lady! My friends who are Mirpuri have endless ‘dholki’ nights and it gets abit much lol

@Laiha

In my side of family, we normally don’t do a formal dholki. A couple of days leading up to the mehndi, friends and cousins start gathering in the bride’s house every evening and practice their singing/dancing for the mehndi night. It’s a lot of fun and very inexpensive. There is no professional makeup/photos/food involved. Also, because it is with close family and friends, there is no stress element so people tend to enjoy more.

I didn’t hear about a formal dholki event (separate from mayoon and mehndi) until I came to the west. I think people here do it because everyone is relatively busy here (compared to pak) and not many people would show up to someone’s house unannounced.

Still, as a separate event, I find it is a bit unnecessary. I really don’t understand why people go on celebrating for a month with multiple dholkis, like you mentioned. If I had that much time off from work, I’d much rather spend that with my husband.

that’s what I’m curious about. I guess people don’t move away from home UNTIL they’re married so their social circle is mostly people that could come to so many events. I was sad about nixxing the mayoun but I couldn’t see how most of our med school friends were going to be able to make it a week in advance to attend that…I would’ve ended up having 5-6 girls total that I grew up with and no one else.

I like the idea of multiple events ONLY because dressing up and all that is so fun but then I think about how as the bride, I’m going to be required to sit there and not sing/dance (in my family, the girls dont) so…then I snap out of it lol.