Wedding drama

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Re: Wedding drama

@Sehar

Your dad is being like many dads from the subcontinent. He comes for a conservative family where arranged marriages are the norm and someone having a “love marriage” ( i hate this term) is a big deal because how could his little girl find someone all on her own? It’s an ego, and log kya kahein gaye issue more than anything else. He’s being unreasonable, and if you can’t find someone to get through to him, then you need to toughen up and take a stand. He will get over it in time.

You wanting companionship is natural at this stage in life, your dad should be encouraging it since he’s obviously wanting to get the siblings married also. Not sure what else he is looking for, he has a potential guy who cares for his daughter, is educated, and has a bright career ahead. In the grander scheme of things, all his “concerns” are trivial. I don’t know of anyone who will quit school after they get married, esp if they have thousands of dollars worth of loans to pay. Anyway, you need to involve a mediator, whether its from the family/friends, or a muslim scholar from the community/masjid that your dad would be willing to listen to. Hang in there and pray. Best of luck.

The worst thing he can do (and I can see him doing it) is just sitting on the decision. I think at times they don’t realize how people need companionship as they get older because most of them (my parents at least) were married fairly early so they’ve never experienced that feeling. It makes me sound so desperate–which I’m not. I just am ready to get started with the next step of my life. And it feels like a natural progression.