My dad’s lack of blessings have a lot to do with : 1) his lack of control in this situation 2) my med school
Parents want the best for their kids, I get that, but sometimes looking at it purely objectively takes away a lot of stuff that should be considered. It’s gonna be hard–I’ve seen my med school friends go through hell being married but I’ve also seen my single friends go through hell too–but I’d rather be married now rather than later. i don’t want to be getting married at 35 and having to have kids immediately. I know he’s my bf but it’s still fairly “halal” and I want to enjoy married life before I have to start thinking about having kids…which I can’t do if we both wait until we’re done with school.
His side is more receptive because they’re all physicians. That’s why they’re “rushing” things (in the words of my dad) because they want us all squared away before rotations start. My family, on the other hand, has no physicians so any info my parnets have is from third party sources. So they’re seeing it more as pure desperation on the guy and my end.