Mehnaz
December 16, 2009, 7:43pm
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Recently I watched a wedding video in which the SIL (groom’s sister) wore the exact same colour combination lehnga as the bride. The work was similar (not heavier or lighter) and since she was constantly assisting the bride and playing a major role in the wedding and valima it clashed tremendously.
When it later transpired that her lehnga was specifically purchased for the occassion it really infuriated me. To top it off she had her hair/make-up and jewellery done like a bride too; complete with dupatta setting on her head. Imagine that!
I refuse to believe that she was making an effort to compete with the bride as I can’t see the family being THAT out of sync with what is acceptable but it sure turned out looking like the two of them were in direct competition for the spot light…and since the SIL was moving around and speaking etc, she seemed to win.
This was not the first time that I saw this happen.
Two years back I attended another wedding in Karachi in which my cousin did the same thing at her own brother’s wedding. She got outfits done in exactly the same colours and very, very similar designs as the bride for both the barat and the valima.
I was floored! Since the wedding was within the family and I was representing the bride’s side I had no clue that this was happening or else I would definitely put a stop to it.
I know that everyone thinks the bride will outshine the others no matter what anyone wears but why take the chance? What if someone has no intention to but accidentally goes overboard? What if someone just doesn’t have the manners to know better?
I don’t think that anyone should ever where their own wedding clothes to the barat function. Save them for the valima of your brother or sister. And remember to wear them in a different way than a bride would.
Let’s just be extra considerate of the bride on these two or three days that she has been planning for and looking forward to…
I wish I could post pics from these two events so that you guys could see for yourself how awful this looked.
This is exactly what I was referring to in that thread a few years ago about wearing your shadi clothes to someone else’s shadi. What you described happening is really mean-spirited.